S3E5: Charity Majors - You are Meant for More

Charity is an author, inspirational speaker, a soulful mindset coach and savvy business strategist, that has coached over 1000 women, all around the world to step into their greatest potential, grow their confidence, build their coaching business and make a Major I.M.P.A.C.T.

Her expertise in mindset, confidence and becoming a heart-centered leader that turns their passion into profit is her superpower.

She is an award winning entrepreneur, down-to-earth (yet powerful) speaker, a podcaster (find her on iTunes), and the author of the #1 New Release and #2 Best Seller, "Meant For More; Igniting Your Purpose in a World That Tries to Dim Your Light."

Her favorite titles are “Babe” to her husband, Chris, and “Mama” to her son, Judah.

She also is an excellent plant killer, a total book-nerd, loves to adventure around the world and doesn’t take herself too seriously (because there is enough serious stuff in this world and dance parties and karaoke are a must). Her favorite foods are thai food and mexican food (bring on the spicy stuff)! And drinks kombucha like it’s going out of style.

Social media and contact information:

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Podcast Transcript

[00:00:00] Damaged Parents: Welcome back to Relatively Damaged by Damaged Parents. Today we have Charity Majors with us. She is an author inspirational speaker, a soulful mindset coach, and a savvy business coach. She has coached.

[00:00:13] Thousands of women around the world and given them the tools to step into their greatest potential, grow their confidence, align their purpose so they can grow their income, increase their influence, and make a major impact. I don't know anybody who wouldn't want all of that after Stu, after struggling with her own limiting beliefs and journeying through the loss of a child. Charity was given the gift of unshakeable confidence that we all are here on purpose. So she has this confidence. We're here on purpose, every single one of us, and we have a purpose. So not that's pretty freaking amazing if you ask me. And with that belief, Along with the tools she's learned along the way, she equips others to unlock their purpose and step unapologetically into who they're meant to be and how they're meant to live out their destiny.

[00:01:05] She's also a former TV host, the host of The Popular Meant For More Podcast and author of a number one new release best seller, Meant for More igniting your purpose in a world that tries to dim your light. You can find her at https://charitymajors.com

[00:01:21] today's topic may include sensitive material, which may not be appropriate for children. This podcast is provided for informational purposes only, and is not intended as advice. The opinions expressed here are strictly those of the person who gave them.

[00:01:35] Charity, welcome to the show.

[00:01:37] Charity Majors: Angela, thank you so much for having me. I'm excited to chat,

[00:01:40] Damaged Parents: Yeah. So many accomplishments. Did you always feel that, because I know you have a journey to the confidence, but did you always feel like all of that was inside of you?

[00:01:51] Charity Majors: It definitely was a journey I would say. Grew up with a great family, great parents who really just poured belief and yeah, just really encouraged, encouraged me and I have two younger brothers. that yeah, they just really encouraged us that we could do, anything and that we were, that we had different giftings and different callings and different purposes that were placed on our life.

[00:02:13] And, um, but what was really interesting was kind. Getting into like middle school and high school. What I found was the feedback that I was receiving from my external environment was really different than what I'd experienced at home, and I found like that I didn't, that I felt like I didn't ever really belong.

[00:02:32] I ended up being like too sporty for. For the pretty girls, but too pretty for the sporty girls. I was I was really smart and graduated with multiple degrees, but I was, I'm a blonde, so I was like the blonde, like the butt of all the blonde jokes. And just kinda got picked on quite a bit, but was really, I was friends with the popular kids, but also friends with, kind of the fringe groups, if you will.

[00:02:54] And so I, I did never really felt like. Like I belonged. And so because of that external feedback of like, gosh, well, like I feel like I'm smart, like I'm getting multiple degrees, I'm graduating with honors, but people keep making fun of me. Or, you know, maybe I'm too bossy or I'm too, I'm too much.

[00:03:10] Maybe I'm not, I'm not enough over here, but I'm too much over here. And like, what does that look like for me to actually show up in a room like authentically me, but getting this. Feedback every time that I showed up. And so it definitely was a journey of me ending up, like actually like hiding in the corner of rooms.

[00:03:26] So afraid to say anything, Not wanting to offend anyone, like afraid that I was gonna be too much and that I was gonna be whatever over here, but then I didn't really know who I was and well, I should just like act like this girl over there. Seemed like they liked her. And so I actually went through this kind of a, somewhat of an identity crisis of not really knowing who I was for a long time.

[00:03:47] Damaged Parents: Well, and it sounds like, yeah, it sounds like you, you could relate to everyone and you could recognize that you could relate to everyone, but you didn't really have a tribe. Is that kind of what I'm hearing here? Like maybe you knew all the popular kids, but you didn't get in, Well, I don't know, maybe you got invited to all the parties, or maybe you didn't get invited to any of 'em, but you knew everyone type thing.

[00:04:09] Charity Majors: Yeah, I mean I definitely got invited, but it was more like like I was, I mean, and it's funny, like looking back, these seem like really non-important, like very first world issues. And I talk about this in my book actually. To where they are. There's somewhat of like these little bullet hole wounds that can happen, right?

[00:04:26] Cause we can go through parts of our journey, right? Like, well, relatively damage we can get through, go through these parts of our journey. Or it's like we get these, like these multiple wounds, like of these repeated lessons like just jab after jab, after jab after jab. But you know, you add up a hundred jobs that might not seem like a big deal, but they end up being a big deal.

[00:04:43] Damaged Parents: Like getting kicked to death by rabbits,

[00:04:45] Charity Majors: I've never heard it put that way, but Sure.

[00:04:48] Damaged Parents: Well, there's supposed to be this innocuous, the, the not really injurous. Type of rabbit. I, I mean kick, I would think. And then, but you get so many of 'em and

[00:04:59] It you're down for the

[00:05:00] Charity Majors: For sure. So I ki I got a lot of those like. Bullet holes, size wounds growing up. And it started to really affect my self-confidence and it started to really affect I had a lot of learning beliefs. I had a lot of negative self-talk. I had a really low self-esteem.

[00:05:18] And so, like I said, I ended up being the girl that hid in the corner like so afraid to like even say anything. In, in fear of offending someone or someone not liking me. And know, then that got perceived as, Oh, Cherry's just the, the girl on the corner that doesn't say anything and now she's just a big, beep like

[00:05:34] Damaged Parents: Oh no.

[00:05:36] Charity Majors: self fulfilling prophecy of yeah, that just wasn't working. And so I ended up actually. Going through a lot of, somewhat of like a big spiritual awakening and a big healing journey where I really started to kind of unpack a lot of those limiting beliefs and really remember who I am, who I was, what I'm here to do, the things that I love, the things that light me up.

[00:05:58] I, I almost joke that it was like this, If you've ever seen the movie Pretty Woman. Where she, where she's like, I don't even know what eggs I like . Like, like I went on like the, you know, or like the eat, pray, love journey. Like, I don't even know , like I had to really go on this spiritual journey of just really unmasking and un layering a lot of what everyone else said I should be and who I should be and how I should act.

[00:06:20] And eventually I stopped shutting all over myself. Stopped letting other people should all over myself and began to really unapologetically show up as who I was, who I am, and who I was created to be and the things that I wanted to do, and it made a big, big difference.

[00:06:37] Damaged Parents: Getting to that point though. It started with, it sounded like it started with the trauma. I'm thinking it was the trauma of losing a child that started you unpacking all this or was it something else?

[00:06:49] Charity Majors: it didn't, it was something It was actually me diving into the world of entrepreneurship,

[00:06:54] Damaged Parents: Okay.

[00:06:55] Charity Majors: really having to learn yes, to learn along the way. And then what was really interesting when we did Lose Our Baby about five years ago, it was this really interesting journey of this, what I like to call, like these larger traumatic events, almost like that cannonball size wound.

[00:07:11] And that was definitely the dark night of the soul, right? So these other bullet size wounds, these were the un pealing of the layering. I like to call those somewhat of the, almost like an HG tv, like you're remodeling your house. Like you gotta take off the. Funky wallpaper or redo the bad wiring, right?

[00:07:27] Like with our brain, like redo the bad wiring of the limiting beliefs. And then you are remodeled, right? You're this great remodeled house, like back to your original, like, original beauty of how it was made. And, but those canonball sized wounds those larger traumatic. Events like it was a lot of a child for maybe someone that's listening, it might be, abuse, it might be just different things like that that can happen that those really affect as you journey through those, those are definitely like the dark night of the soul.

[00:07:50] And so that brought up, even deeper issues where I started to really ask the questions of man, like, Why, why am I. Why am I even here and why am I even alive? And I just remember sitting on the floor. Ugly crying on the bathroom and sitting in a puddle of tears and asking these big questions.

[00:08:11] And for me it's God for you fill in the blank for you, for whatever you believe, but God just came and met me and told me that I wasn't broken and, and all of my brokenness that, my body couldn't keep my baby safe, he told me that I wasn't broken and in all of this shame and isolation that I felt, you know, he didn't give me a seven step to get out of my whatever, like most of the personal development world does and , and it was this really beautiful, It was actually like an impartation.

[00:08:36] Cause I think that we can teach what we know, but we can impart. What we experience, and it was this beautiful impartation that through the loss of, of our baby that we actually, that I actually was imparted with the gift of fully wholeheartedly every cell in my body knowing that we are each a living, walking.

[00:08:55] Miracle on this planet. It's not a mistake, Angela, that you're here, and it's not a mistake that I'm here, It's not a mistake that for you that's listening, it's not a mistake that you're here, that you're here on purpose, for a purpose. You are a, a divine dream wrapped in human skin, walking on this planet at this exact time in all of history.

[00:09:11] And that is not a mistake. And there are things that you're called to accomplish and there are things that you, that light you up that you're meant to do. . And like I said, I think that we can teach what we know, but , when I'm able to really work with people in, different speaking and engagements that I have, that there's a different impartation of really igniting purpose that happens and that's what has made all the difference.

[00:09:34] Damaged Parents: So it sounds like you're able instead of like to just give, like, here do these steps, it's a gift of showing someone or helping them to figure out how to experience that. They are their own gift in a way. Am I

[00:09:52] Charity Majors: Yeah, absolutely.

[00:09:53] Damaged Parents: Okay, good. I was like, gosh, I don't know how to explain this, but I think that was Beau that worked out because, But how do you help, I guess, how does one help another person besides being in the room and sharing that energetic frequency and how does one really get to understand their value?

[00:10:15] Charity Majors: So I like to say that a lot of of the, the lessons that we've learned throughout our life are actually, that they happen for us, not to us, and that they're actually linked to our purpose. So for. Me a lot of, right, Like, like I mentioned, those bullet size wounds. Or for you, it might be like that repeated lesson that comes around over and over and over again, right? It might be a different teacher, but it's the same lesson. It's like, oh, like I'm in like this kind of a friendship again or this relationship.

[00:10:43] Again, you know, even though it's a different person or this lesson again, like I'm being rejected again. And so for me, what was really interesting was the repeated lessons is I started to look back over my life. Some of the repeated lessons were that I felt like I didn't belong. And so one of this.

[00:11:01] because I know the sting of what it feels like to be rejected and to not feel like I belonged. On the opposite side of that, one of my superpowers, one of my gifts that I'm actually really, really great at fostering and creating community and creating tables where, especially women, because I've been rejected a lot and hurt by a lot of women, and I actually know what it.

[00:11:19] Feels like for that sting. And so I know what it feels like to create the opposite of that. And so I create tables where women know that they, that they have a seat at the table, that what they bring matters that they are seeing, that they are known, that they are heard, that they belong. And so because of.

[00:11:34] The opposing lesson that I received multiple times throughout my life that I didn't belong, that I didn't have what I took, that I wasn't enough, that I was hurt and rejected by women. I'm actually really great at the opposite of that, of really creating community and allowing women to know that they are seen, loved, valued, heard, and they have a seat at the table.

[00:11:52] Damaged Parents: It's almost like, it sounds like you had to walk through that fear of the rejection and the this and the that and all of that because you knew that and you knew what that was like, and even though it might have been scary, you had to actually walk through that fire and instead of Sitting in the rejection, it was walking through the fire to say, You know what?

[00:12:13] I'm gonna create something new that instead of I'm gonna avoid having conversations with these women, I'm going to avoid engaging. It was almost like you had to walk toward what you were afraid of.

[00:12:24] Charity Majors: Oh, absolutely. I'm a firm believer that we have to allow, We don't have to. We get the choice, right, But when we allow fear to be our guide, Right. That's actually is what is what's next on the docket, is the next level of where we're being called and it, and our limiting beliefs and our fears will typically yell the loudest right before our next breakthrough.

[00:12:44] Damaged Parents: Mm. Yeah, that frustration, that fear, that anger, maybe it can be a trigger to, Oh, I'm almost to another breakthrough, but how easy is that to remember when we're sitting in it,

[00:12:58] Charity Majors: Oh, for sure. Not easy . So we like take a step back and we're like, Oh, yes, okay, I'm done. We don't have to, Right? I don't, We get to choose again. I love this saying that we just, we get to choose again, right? Like we always have that choice to go down the, the rabbit hole, the spiral, the trigger, the, the.

[00:13:13] Internal monologue or we get to choose again and we get to say, Actually, I'm gonna think a different way, or I'm gonna show up a different way. Cause if we keep doing the same thing, right, that's the definition of insanity. If we are doing the same thing over and over and over and expecting a different result, that's the definition of insanity.

[00:13:27] So if we want a different result, then we have to think a different way, or we have to take different action. We have to get in different rooms, we have to be around different people. If we want a different result.

[00:13:34] Damaged Parents: , Yeah. And that's scary or awkward and weird.

[00:13:38] Charity Majors: Can be

[00:13:39] Damaged Parents: I, Yeah, like I think that that's the thing, like sometimes to gain that confidence, the, because I mean, that's what I'm really getting from you is like that this confidence is something that we all have inside of us, but in order to get there, we can't shy away from it.

[00:13:56] We have to just accept it, I think is what you're saying is like we just do make that choice. Okay, I'm going to choose confidence right now. I'm going to do this even though I'm also scared,

[00:14:09] Charity Majors: Absolutely. Absolutely.

[00:14:11] Damaged Parents: So, what is the power of unity versus uniformity?

[00:14:16] Charity Majors: Mm, I love this. And I think it's the really interesting topic, especially and in today's volatile world where everyone is offended about something and has, and the keyboard warriors are , are just going for it.

[00:14:28] Damaged Parents: I like how you said keyboard warriors. I think that's a fantastic description of what's happened. It's, it's almost like there's this need to instigate and cause, and I'm thinking there, some of these people are probably laughing. They think it's funny to, to create these scenarios that are causing other people significant pain,

[00:14:50] but keyboard, I don't know if I wanna call them warriors now. Can we

[00:14:54] Charity Majors: Well, these, whoever, whatever you wanna call 'em. Yeah, I think that in this world where it's is, it can be, you know, which everyone, they have an opinion, which is great, like have your opinions and have beliefs, but there's, I think that there is this. Confusion of what it looks like that people are saying.

[00:15:09] Unity, unity, unity. And they're expecting that. Everyone needs to think like them, look like them, do everything exactly like them. Have the exact background, like them, like have the same beliefs as them. Vote the same way as they do, right? Like all this different stuff compared to, and that's what they're quote on.

[00:15:27] Saying, that thinking what unity is, but that's actually uniformity. That's actually where everyone, right, Like dresses the same, looks the same, like repeats the same, you know, like a robot like does it like that's uniformity and what actual unity is, is it's when we come together to. Bite our differences.

[00:15:46] It's when we come together and say, Angela, you might believe this and I might believe this, but that's okay because there's space for you to believe what you believe. I'm gonna hear your story and why you believe that, and I'm gonna honor you and your and your story. You're gonna maybe hear my story and why I believe this thing and you're gonna honor me and my story.

[00:16:02] And regardless of the beliefs, whether or not they're different or they say that we can still come together as human beings, and that's what actual unity. And I think the people are getting them confused. So my encouragement for you, if you're listening to this and maybe you are getting, whether you are a keyboard warrior, you're being attacked by some keyboard warriors or you're, whatever that might mean, cuz it's really big right now on social media, is to understand that, that we don't, we aren't all not meant to look the same.

[00:16:29] We're not meant to, dress the same. We're not meant to have the same message. We're not meant to believe the same, We're not meant to vote the same way. We're not meant to, have the same backgrounds. And that's okay. There is space for all of it. There's space for the messy middle, and there's space for your journey.

[00:16:44] And there's space for my journey. And there's space for your beliefs. And there's space for my And that at the end of the day that we can still come together and say, Yeah, and you know what? We are all on spiritual beings on this human experience. And there's space for all of it.

[00:16:57] And I honor you even. Our beliefs are different.

[00:17:01] Damaged Parents: Yeah. Which I think is, is really hard. I mean, even, I think I'm, I'm trying to remember what book I read. I wanna say it was one by Adam Grant, but even in Congress, we've got people, part political people, they're not crossing party lines, or we go to the doctor's office and we just assume that the doctor know.

[00:17:21] Us and, and they get a whole 15 minutes with us. Right? Like, but because we're, and I'm, I know those are two different, two different things. Just just follow me for a second here. When we do that, when we assume that someone else knows who we are, and then we don't voice that, we don't say, This is who I am and this is how I stand. other people get to make that decision for us. So a doctor could give us if we're not gonna say, Well, I'm experienced this, this, this, or this, and the doctor could say, go do this, but it, they're not really hearing us. And I think that the same thing is happening maybe in Congress.

[00:17:58] They're not listening. So because we're not finding a way to be unified in our differences and accepting that no matter where we're at, people are different and they have different experiences of us, and then we need to stand and say, Okay, and this is also. Something you need to know about where I stand, but at the same time being open.

[00:18:21] See this is something I've really been working through for a little while here. Trying to figure out how do we find that balance in sharing who we are and what we are and allowing and giving room for others to share who they are and what they are or what they believe in. And I think that's a lot of what you're talking about.

[00:18:39] And you just got like a totally like. Part of who I am in how I just got to that

[00:18:46] Charity Majors: I love it. It's a great thought process.

[00:18:48] Damaged Parents: Yeah. How does Angela think this way? very convoluted. or complex? I'm gonna say complex. . I'll go to complex. I like that word better.

[00:18:56] Charity Majors: you did a great job connecting the dots.

[00:18:58] Damaged Parents: Well, thank you. But you know, like how do we bring, I mean, with all of this, cuz it's really hard when you're on social media if someone makes an attack. Right? Or they, their keyboard warrior self comes out and they say something that triggers something in me. I'm. Of the thought process that that something is a trigger in me for a reason and maybe I need to take a look at that and not blame them.

[00:19:23] But I think right now in, at least from what I'm seeing on social media, it becomes, these people are attacking. And it also can turn into that though, right? So how, where's the line?

[00:19:35] Charity Majors: Yeah, absolutely. I think that is for each of us to determine. I think that's up to us to, as to whether or not what our boundaries are, what we are open and willing to put up with or not put up with. And that is a personal decision Right. Like I, I, better than I do, better than, a significant.

[00:19:51] And other, or your best friend, like what your boundaries are or what they should be. Um, Especially when it comes to other people saying you're doing things to you. And, and I think that that's the thing, when it comes to the keyboard warriors and the arguments online, what's really interesting about communication is that the majority of communication is actually nonverbal and Right.

[00:20:11] It's the, it's. Inflections in the voice, and it's what my, you know, what my eyes do, or what my body language does. And, when so much can get lost in translation with text on a screen. I actually have a full chapter , devoted to this in my book. Meant for More. It's because it is such a, it is such a big deal.

[00:20:28] There's so much that's lost in translation when it comes to, just typing words on a screen. you know, If you even think of something as simple as, hello, right? If I say hello, period. You're gonna interpret that differently as if I said, hello, exclamation point, right? Or hello with a, like a smiley big face emoji, or a hello?

[00:20:45] With like the puking emoji, right? Like, you're gonna.

[00:20:48] Damaged Parents: Or, or even the LA based on the last conversation you and I had, I could interpret it that way. That perspective, and if I walked away from that conversation feeling icky and you walked away feeling good, your interpretation of the hello you're sending me is very different from the message I'm receiving.

[00:21:06] Charity Majors: Yeah, for sure. And a lot of that is just based off of how we perceive things and it's based off of the filters that we receive, things. If like, for example, if the filters that, like I said that I had to really work on growing up was a lot of these limiting beliefs that I didn't, that I didn't belong.

[00:21:23] So for example, And I was like maybe six years old. I had gone to a new school and I, was going, I was out at recess and I had asked some of the girls if I could play with them and they said no, and for my six year old little heart, right. Again, these are one of those little, those little bullet hole wounds based.

[00:21:42] Of that rejection, I then attached a belief that said, I don't belong. These girls don't like me when, who knows, Maybe they were playing a certain game and it only allowed four players and not five. Right? Like, like we have to like start to be able to tell ourselves different stories as a part of how we go back and heal, heal some of those different beliefs that we pick up.

[00:22:01] But once we pick up those beliefs, then we start to filter and see everything else in our. Through that belief. So it's almost like if you've ever gone shopping for a car and you see that car everywhere. Right. We have this thing in our brain, it's called confirmation bias. And so when you're focused in on something, when you have an attached an emotional experience that attaches a limiting belief to it, then all of a sudden you're gonna say, Oh yeah, there's that car, there's that car, there's that car, there's that car.

[00:22:26] Cuz your brain is confirming what you believed in that you wanted. And then when it comes to those limiting beliefs and all of a sudden, Oh, I don't belong now my brain is like, Yep, here's where another place where you didn't belong. Here's another place where you were rejected. Here's another place where girls didn't like you.

[00:22:40] Even though, right, And here's the opposite for me. Even though I had also, on the other hand, I had great friends and I was in sports and always was surrounded by other women and was always on teams and was always surrounded by community. But because of those hurt, hurtful experiences, I attached those beliefs and those were the things that I noticed.

[00:23:00] It was the rejection that I noticed. It was the hurt that I noticed. It was the not feeling like I fit in that I noticed until I went. And change the story.

[00:23:09] Damaged Parents: Yeah, and changing that story is hard because I would think a lot of that is implicit bias comes into it.

[00:23:17] Charity Majors: I think it depends on the story and I think it, it depends on how willing someone is to heal.

[00:23:23] So it can be hard or it can be really easy. Like there have been things in my life where it was easy to heal from and other things were hard, and it was just because of where I was at and what I was willing to release or to let go compared to hold on to.

[00:23:39] Damaged Parents: Yeah. And I'm thinking you've had. Things you also thought were healed, that then something happens and you find yourself healing again, or at least investigating again maybe from a new perspective.

[00:23:51] Charity Majors: Yeah, absolutely. There's definitely layers to healing and what I like to say, right? It's like you go around the mountain, Oh, here we go, Going around the mountain again. Going around the mountain again, and I'm back at this lesson, but. What I find is that as we go around the mountain, we're always also going up the mountain, right?

[00:24:07] And so if you can imagine almost like an ice cream cone, how it of swirls up. So you might circle back around to that same problem, but now you have a higher perspective and the next time you go around, you're gonna have a higher perspective. And the next time you go around, you're gonna have a higher perspective.

[00:24:19] And you're gonna realize that that same lesson, that that same That has come back around, that you're not as triggered and that you're thinking about it differently and that you're responding differently. And as you start to notice that, then you can know that you're on the path to healing.

[00:24:32] Damaged Parents: Yeah. That's really beautiful. I like that. Okay, what are three top tips? If someone is either currently going through a struggle or they have, they're reprocessing an old struggle, what would be the top three things you, you might say, Try this.

[00:24:50] Charity Majors: Well, a big thing, So I'm gonna actually I talk about this in my I have an Unshakeable Confidence challenge. It's a 14 day on man course, and I love this acronym that I give, and it's called Via v i A and Via is actually Road in Love. So it, it was a fun little correlation of like, that you're on the journey.

[00:25:09] But v actually really has to do with your vibration and your energy. If you can imagine almost like an upside down birthday hat, at the bottom of that birthday hat are things like shame and guilt and grief and all of these lower vibration feelings that science is now able to measure that if you're feeling shame.

[00:25:29] Science can actually put these nu, you know, like these sticky nodes on your brain and, and you'll literally, your body will give off a certain frequency and it matches shame. And it's the same with fear. It's the same with apathy. It's the same, And as you go, Up this upside down birthday hat, if you can imagine.

[00:25:46] As it gets wider towards the top, those are things like courage and joy and peace and love. And so as you are able to recognize, well, okay, well maybe I'm in a shame cycle, but I'm gonna shift. My vibration. I'm gonna shift my energy. I'm gonna shift with the, the focus of what I'm thinking about. I'm gonna learn to start to heal those fear-based thoughts.

[00:26:05] I'm gonna learn to start to heal that shame. I'm gonna learn to start to right, like we're getting over. We're healing these lower vibrational energies that can come from us, from our thoughts is as we start to move up this, these. Disease, then that can make a huge difference in how we show up in who we attract and the rooms that we're invited to.

[00:26:24] And the message that comes out of our mouth in the thoughts that we think, because from our beliefs come our thoughts from our thoughts come our words. From our words come our habits, from our habits come our, our actions and our destiny. And so when we're able to really change those thoughts and those beliefs, everything changes on the.

[00:26:40] So it's a really internal job. Inside job. The next one is I, and that one is your intuition. And this is really that voice of truth inside. So a lot of times, we've have learned to, like growing up, we maybe have learned to. Not listen to that voice of truth inside or maybe not trust that voice of truth inside.

[00:26:58] Um, Right. We've got our intuition. And then for me, like I said, I believe in God. And so, God speaks to me. Again, fill in the blank for you. Don't get caught in the weeds of me saying that you need to believe in God or anything like that. But really listening to that voice of truth inside and really learning how to trust it is huge.

[00:27:12] Because that voice of truth will always lead us towards what it is that invite us in what it is that we need to be able to fill our greatest calling in our destiny. And then a is abundance. And that is all about really coming from not just a, a healthy money mindset for abundance but also abundance in what it looks like for friendships, abundance of what it looks like for business, right?

[00:27:37] Like, oh, if I'm doing good in my. It's not gonna take away right from this other woman that's doing really good in her business, right? There's enough for everyone. There's enough to go around that it's all happening for us. It's all these different beliefs when it comes to an abundance mindset, that really shift things in our ex.

[00:27:54] Internal world, so v i a, vibration, intuition and abundance. Those are really great places to start. As you're working on of replacing those fear-based thoughts and working on those limiting beliefs to gain unshakeable confidence.

[00:28:08] Damaged Parents: Oh, I love it. I love it. Thank you so much, Charity Majors for coming on this show. You can find her https://charitymajors.com. She's also on Instagram and I th gosh, where else was the other place? I saw You're everywhere,

[00:28:23] Charity Majors: Yeah, I'm mostly on Instagram. Come hang out with me on Instagram, Charity Majors,

[00:28:28] Damaged Parents: This sounds good. Thank you so much, Charity.

[00:28:31] Charity Majors: Angela, thanks so much for your time and just to be able to pour into your audience that. It's an honor.

[00:28:37] Damaged Parents: It was definitely an honor and a blessing. Thank you so much.

[00:28:40] Thank you for listening to this week's episode of Relatively Damaged by Damaged Parents. We really enjoyed talking to Charity about the stories we tell ourselves. We especially liked when she spoke about the bullet holes, sized wounds and how to heal from them.

[00:28:56] To unite with other damaged people, connect with us on Instagram. Look for damaged parents. We'll be here next week still Relatively Damaged see you then