S3E4: Robyn Moore - Transforming Depression, Anxiety and More

Through her incredible journey of perseverance and hope, Robyn has powerfully freed herself from 11 medications, rejuvenated her health by losing 70 pounds, overcome depression and anxiety and embraced motherhood with the adoption of her son, Jaden.

If you’ve ever struggled with negative self-talk or freeing yourself from “the comparison trap”, Robyn Moore is the answer you’ve been looking for.
Robyn uniquely empowers women to transform their inner critic into their greatest, unstoppable champion, so they can flourish in all areas of their life. Having spent many years silently struggling with anxiety, depression, and health issues, Robyn created a new and inspiring path to entirely redefine what was possible for her future.
Now, with her innovative coaching methodology, Robyn helps women reconnect with their inner joy so they can begin to see the world through a different lens. It is by embracing this incredible perspective shift that Robyn’s clients are all able to finally create and experience the joy-filled, aligned, and fulfilling life that they deserve.

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Podcast Transcript

[00:00:00] Damaged Parents: Welcome back to Relatively Damaged by Damaged Parents today, we're going to talk with Robyn Moore. She has many roles in her life, mom, daughter, sister, and more. We'll talk about how she was on 11 medications and was able to get off those medications and a big plus lose 70 pounds. Let's talk.

[00:00:20] Welcome back to Relatively Damaged by Damaged Parents. Today, we have Robyn Moore with us. She owns her own coaching business, where she has the blessing of helping other women connect with their inner joy, helping them finally create and experience the joy filled, aligned, and fulfilling life that they deserve.

[00:00:41] Having spent many years silently struggling with anxiety, depression, and health issues. Robyn creates a new and inspiring path to entirely redefine what was possible for her future through her incredible journey of perseverance and hope.

[00:00:57] Robyn has powerfully freed herself from 11 medications, rejuvenated her health by losing 70 pounds, overcome depression and anxiety and has embraced motherhood with the adoption of her son. Jayden, you can find Robyn at https://robynmoorecoaching.com or on Facebook, Robyn.moore16, Robyn. Welcome to the show.

[00:01:22] Robyn Moore: Hi, Angela. Thanks for having.

[00:01:24] Damaged Parents: Yeah. I'm so glad you came. Okay. 11 medications. I feel like that's oh, there's a special name in the medical field. I think for someone who takes a lot of medicine and furthermore, I usually think of elderly people and you are clearly not elderly to me.

[00:01:41] Robyn Moore: Yeah. Yeah. And this was, I've been off the medic, most of those medications for about 15 years. So I was not elderly.

[00:01:47] for sure

[00:01:48] Damaged Parents: You implying that maybe now you are,

[00:01:51] Robyn Moore: No. Yeah. Hopefully I hope not. I hope not. I haven't hit that. Mid-century mark, but I'm getting close, but

[00:01:58] Damaged Parents: I feel that I feel that pain.

[00:02:01] Robyn Moore: But yeah, no, it was, it was this, the cycle of, you know, I, I originally went in for the depression anxiety um, when I was in college. And so that's where the medicine started and then it's, kinda like every medicine caused another issue and, I just kept going back and, and I didn't know any better except to just do what I was told.

[00:02:22] before. I was, not even 30 years old and I'm on the 11 prescription medications, the doctor, I go in to see a doctor. They want to put me on number 12, give me this crazy diagnosis. And I remember telling my mom and she was like, Robyn, that that is not correct. Like that is not you. And it was of.

[00:02:40] Really a light bulb moment for me, because I thought, I get to kind of think for myself what, like, I get to kind of question and research which later led me into questioning, like what I was telling myself as well. But at that point, that really started a journey for me that the N one of those things was getting off all 11 of those medications, one by one with every, every medicine I got off another.

[00:03:03] Diagnosed disease went away. And it just kind of spirited this journey for me. That's just taking me to an amazing life.

[00:03:10] Damaged Parents: Okay. So you're in college, you're having anxiety impression and you start the medication, the first one, and then you have reactions from those and or side effects and they're like, oh, you also need this medication.

[00:03:25] Robyn Moore: Yeah, they were side effects. I didn't know that at the time. Right. It wasn't real easy to walk through that. It was, you know, some of the things where I had restless leg syndrome, I was diagnosed with

[00:03:35] a form of narcolepsy. Right. So like, it was like, I wasn't sleeping. And so I went in for, test study.

[00:03:41] So like I had, it was on prescription speed to stay awake during the day. And I was on a sleeping pill to, I never got more than three hours of. At night with medication. Right. And then it was like I said, the restless leg syndrome and then high blood pressure. And it just spearheaded and went one by one.

[00:03:57] But I, at the time did not correlate, the additional medication to the new issue.

[00:04:03] Damaged Parents: well, and as a patient, I would think you're probably thinking that that's the doctor's job

[00:04:08] Robyn Moore: Right,

[00:04:09] Damaged Parents: the pharmacist shop.

[00:04:11] Robyn Moore: Sure. that's what I thought at the time for sure.

[00:04:13] Damaged Parents: mean, yeah. I think that's kind of important to talk about because. Those darn white coats have power it. And I say that in the sense that it's so easy to forget going to a doctor's office, that it's just another human being that has maybe more knowledge in that area.

[00:04:32] Robyn Moore: Yeah. And I think we are just kind of taught to what they tell us we do, but what I've learned through my journey is. They're just like anybody else, they have limitations and they don't know me as well as I know me. Right. They may know medicine a lot, a lot better, but I have to be my own advocate for what I believe is going on.

[00:04:53] Now. I do my own research. I do all of that because I want to go in with as much knowledge to be able to make the decision that's right. For me, not for a general population or what's in a book. But what's right for you.

[00:05:05] Damaged Parents: Yeah. what has been your experience since all of this happened? I mean, I would love to get into more of this on ongoing in with that research sometimes. Is it rebuffed or the doctor frustrated or do you have to find a special kind of doctor or one that connects with you? How did you, what do you do.

[00:05:27] Robyn Moore: Yeah, I think all of those. So I remember the first medication that I got off of was my blood pressure medication. So I remember going, this was, years ago, but I remember going into the doctor and her saying your blood pressure looks great. And then. you know, I'm like, great. And then later in conversation, I say, yeah, stop my blood pressure medication a few weeks ago.

[00:05:47] And she was like, are you kidding me? You can't do that. And I was like, but you just told me that my, that was the best my blood pressure had ever been. She was like, yeah, but you can't do that. So that's what kind of started my journey. Well, yeah, actually I can, it worked very well for me and so why are we not going down this route?

[00:06:07] Right. Like, why are we not going down the ways that helped me versus what medications do I need to add to my regimen? You

[00:06:14] Damaged Parents: So what was it about like the, the concern, if you do this, you could have had these repercussions. I mean, you had already done it,

[00:06:22] Robyn Moore: Yeah. I think that probably was it, what I, what I've come to learn? I mean, I have a high respect for doctors. I think they're great. They have their place, but.

[00:06:30] what I've learned is that. been trained in one way, right? Like most of them have been trained to know medicine and how to put medicines towards a problem.

[00:06:41] And I learned from.

[00:06:43] Damaged Parents: fix

[00:06:44] Robyn Moore: Yes. The

[00:06:45] Damaged Parents: quote unquote.

[00:06:46] Robyn Moore: which oftentimes can just masquerade, right? What the real issue is. But so many people right in America, want that right. They want something that's an easy fix. But those easy fixes right. Can also cause lots of other issues.

[00:07:01] Damaged Parents: um,

[00:07:03] Robyn Moore: My preference and what I've learned in all this is to go the natural route, right.

[00:07:08] To, to use the things that God gave us in the beginning. and that's where I found great success. And that's actually what I saw an herbalist. That was how I got off. Most of those medications just rejuvenating my body because. Body soul and spirit are so tied together. And when one is, is mixed up, it's so hard to figure out all the other, right.

[00:07:30] Because they're so tied together, you know, which came first, the chicken or the egg it's sometimes it's hard to it's hard to place that together when, when everything's so out of whack, you know? and so that was uh, a big part of the beginning of my journey was right. Was working on those health. And then when I was in a better place, physically I was able to work on the metals for some people.

[00:07:51] It may be the opposite. I found a lot. It's the mental, right? Because the mental is so part much part of the physical, but

[00:07:58] that's why really a holistic approach is best. But

[00:08:02] but yeah, they all, they all play together and they all are very, very intertwined.

[00:08:07] Damaged Parents: It seems like what I'm hearing you saying is that, in holistic, I also think it, it, what I'm hearing is a very individual approach and not just, oh, we need to go down this path because you mark these boxes here.

[00:08:23] Robyn Moore: Yeah. Yeah. And, and that's why, you know, we're talking about the physical right now, but that's why it's so important, like with my coaching, right. Because it's the individual, right. We all have our stories that we've created. We all have our history. We all have our stories and our, by our stories. I mean, you can have somebody witness, you can have 12 people witness a crime and you have 12 different stories, right?

[00:08:46] Because we all have a different lens that we're viewing things through. And so the beliefs and the things that are happening in our lives are usually tied to some really core beliefs that we believe about life or about ourselves. And I know this was true for me as well. But that's why it's an individualized thing.

[00:09:05] Right? You got to figure out for each person what that is. And then when you can show them what they're creating by believing that story, when they see it, then they're likely to think about other options, like to realize that that story is not helping them. And so what is a story that's still, it's still true.

[00:09:26] It's the same circumstance, but the story is what dictates our lives.

[00:09:30] Damaged Parents: So there's a difference between the story I tell myself maybe, and the experience I'm having and the story I'm telling. So there is like, get another layer, maybe the story I'm telling myself about the experience.

[00:09:45] Robyn Moore: Yeah, well, the, so you have a fact so your experience, the way I think of an experience.

[00:09:49] is your feelings, right? And So your feelings about what are going on is coming from a thought and that thought, which I'm calling that story. It's coming from something that happened. But that thing that happened, we often, we don't view it like in the court of law.

[00:10:05] Right. We put a lot of extra feelings and emotions and thoughts and words behind that situation. And that's what creates those thoughts. That actually create feelings that we don't like so much. Right.

[00:10:20] Damaged Parents: So kind of like we're on a thought train and we're just making it longer and longer

[00:10:25] to create the story

[00:10:26] Robyn Moore: we are. So our thoughts are creating our fillings. And then that creates our actions. The things that we do, the things that we don't do, and those things are what create our results. And 100% of the time, our results tie to our original thought. So we're creating this self-fulfilling loop. And sometimes we get so stuck in that.

[00:10:48] Right. We've done it for, for decades, maybe. Right. We've done it years, weeks, decades. And we create these stories that feel so real to us. Right. They feel like the absolute truth, but

[00:10:59] Damaged Parents: really interesting that you're using the word. They feel like absolute truth, implying that maybe the story and those feelings, maybe they were just what happened back then or the star, or they shifted somehow into what we're believing now.

[00:11:18] Robyn Moore: well, both of those. So our view of it, our story that we see so often we think is a hundred percent true. But when you break down with, when I break down, what somebody telling me, very few of that is normally fact.

[00:11:33] Damaged Parents: Mm.

[00:11:34] Robyn Moore: instance, let's say if you wake up in the morning and whatever's on your brain, you write all of that down on a piece of paper, write what's your thinking about what you're worried about.

[00:11:41] All those things go back and circle. What are actually, facts could be proven. And, in the court of law, very few of those are facts. Right.

[00:11:53] And so those are the stories that, that feel very real to us. They feel like fact, and then we're thinking those and a belief is just a repetitive thought.

[00:12:03] So we're thinking that over and over and over. So then we create this belief. So it could be something like let's say I did an activity and I didn't feel like I did as well as I should. And so I told myself that I'm failure Right. and so by thinking that I'm a failure, guess what? It's a self fulfilling prophecy.

[00:12:21] I'm going to continue to do things that make me feel like a failure. And I go all these years later, everything I do, I feel like a failure, but really, I just told myself a story that wasn't even true all those years ago.

[00:12:37] Damaged Parents: And it just kept perpetuating because you believe it.

[00:12:41] Robyn Moore: Exactly.

[00:12:42] Damaged Parents: Got it. So just back to the medicine. So when you took away that blood pressure medicine, what, what gave you the idea like, oh, I'm going to, was it I'm going to try this? What happened? That you're like have new in this.

[00:12:57] Robyn Moore: Yeah. So for me, I was driving by it, it was a place that, an office that was very close to where I live. And so I had driven by that like, uh, hundreds of times. But for some reason after this incident, I told you what the doctor of this last diagnosis, I saw this herbalist, this place. And I was like, huh?

[00:13:16] I think also my brother had told me at one point That I might think about seeing a, a natural assert herbalist or something because the medication at the time, it just irritated me because I was like, he doesn't even know what I'm going through. He wouldn't, he didn't know what I mean. He'd like, it just irritated.

[00:13:32] But I think that thought was in my head as well. He had planted that seed and I saw this herbalist and I was sketchy. I was like, I was maybe sketchy is not the word I was. Hesitant. I can't think of the word I'm looking for, but I was like, I don't know. Right. but I ended up just walking in and I ended up meeting some other clients, customers that were there and talked to them and it was like, well, they seem level-headed, they seem normal.

[00:14:01] Right. And

[00:14:02] Damaged Parents: Well, okay, hold on. Wait, what did you think you were going to walk in to

[00:14:06] Robyn Moore: I don't know at the time, which is so funny to me to talk about all these years later. Such a huge part of my life, but I think at the time I thought ying yang, that's just like really weird stuff. That's like cookie, I just, that was my thought at the time. Right. That was that was my belief.

[00:14:22] And I walked in there and you know, God just really used that for that herbalist just, started helping me get off those medications. And so that's where that's kind of where the strength came from. Was him saying. You know, And he wasn't like get off this medication. He started giving me some herbs to boost my system and, just talk that it was a possibility.

[00:14:41] And I was like, yeah, that's what I want to do. I want to get off the stuff that I feel like is causing more chaos in my life than they'll be me.

[00:14:49] Damaged Parents: Right. You you did that, you went to the doctor, the first ones out of there, the first medication, was it the same type of thing with the, as you continued with other, I don't know if you had other clinicians that you had to work with or other doctors, or were you able to just say, okay, I'm ready. I want to, I want to get off all of this.

[00:15:07] Robyn Moore: Yeah, I don't think, I honestly, I'm not saying I recommend this.

[00:15:10] but I don't think I checked with any doctor with any medicine I got off of. I, again, I just started learning to trust myself. and, you know, it was seeing that herbal herbalist. So I did have some guidance, but I believe I got off nine of those medications in that first year.

[00:15:26] Damaged Parents: Oh, wow.

[00:15:27] Robyn Moore: Yeah. And the, yeah, it just, right. It's just completely kind of changed my life. And then it was after that, that I lost the 70 pounds. And then after that, it's when I really started digging into the mental health, which to me, I mean, yeah, getting off those medications and, and losing the weight were amazing things that helped me, but nothing helped me as much as, as my mental aspect of everything.

[00:15:53] Damaged Parents: So real quick was the, before we get into the mental health aspect Did the week just come off naturally, as you were making these changes or did you actually decide? No, I'm gonna, I'm gonna work on this.

[00:16:03] Robyn Moore: did. I decided to work on it, but I, I was at the space that I could actually. you know, Have the mind to work on it because it wasn't so clogged up with my body. Wasn't clogged up with all those medications, which I think was really, know, Like I described, never getting more than three hours of sleep.

[00:16:20] I mean, it's, you might think, well, that will allow you time to prepare all these other things. No, it, it keeps you in a chronic state of.

[00:16:30] Damaged Parents: Like a walking zombie.

[00:16:31] Robyn Moore: walking zombie.

[00:16:32] I pretty much was. I mean, through all of this, I was still working full time actually at that time I was in school full-time and working full-time yeah.

[00:16:42] Damaged Parents: Okay. So you were working full-time and going to school and only three hours of sleep. How is that even possible? How did you even continue moving forward?

[00:16:54] Robyn Moore: I don't know that I have an answer for that. I mean, I guess God's grace that I kept moving forward?

[00:16:59] I look back at it now and you know, it's funny because I, I kind of. Contend to be an overachiever kind of hard on myself and always thinking I need to be doing more. And sometimes I do just have to stop and think and look at, even in my current situation, but especially back then, right.

[00:17:17] Like that was, that was a lot, you see the things you didn't do. Right. But like you were handling that actually pretty well.

[00:17:25] Damaged Parents: So when you were there in that situation, environment experience, you were still thinking there was more you could be doing

[00:17:34] Robyn Moore: Sure.

[00:17:35] Damaged Parents: doing right.

[00:17:36] Robyn Moore: Well, I. I think it was really frustrating for me that I was searching for answers and I felt like I couldn't find them now when I started seeing the herbalists and getting out those medications, I started down the right path, but it still was a journey. Right. And so, it was at the time it was a very frustrating journey because. It wasn't like someone was given me the answers and I just wasn't doing them. Like I was doing everything that I knew to do, but yet I, my life still felt miserable. Right. I still felt like nothing was working. But I was still trying the best I could to pretend on the outside and right.

[00:18:19] to, and to keep it going.

[00:18:20] I kinda lost my ability as the years went on. My ability to pretend became less and less. I have no ability to pretend now because I used it all up and all those younger years.

[00:18:32] Damaged Parents: That's funny. Okay. So even as you're getting off all this medicine, You lose the weight. There's still the, the underlying anxiety and depression

[00:18:45] Robyn Moore: There is.

[00:18:46] Damaged Parents: okay. And what was that? How did you start to cope with that? Or what did you do to start healing yourself?

[00:18:54] Robyn Moore: Yeah. I think that was the, you know, that was definitely the most difficult because. was a constant state at that my eye. So I had kind of, let me just say, I, I tell people to never make the thought of suicide an option because once you play with the idea at least my experience was is that it was constant.

[00:19:15] Right? So I

[00:19:16] Damaged Parents: you had the rumination of the idea.

[00:19:19] Robyn Moore: yeah, the idea that just over and over, so it had started for me, like when I was in junior high, but now we're talking. 15 years of, of this. And it's a pretty miserable way to live, right? Like wondering if that's something that you want to go forward through all the time, but I can remember as I started coming out of it I can remember telling my mom, like, mom, I think I may be happy.

[00:19:44] Like I had never remembered feeling, knowing what that felt like.

[00:19:48] Damaged Parents: Oh, wow.

[00:19:49] Robyn Moore: And so it was just this constant Just filling those stories. I had been telling myself, right. That nobody loved me. And here's all the reasons why. Right. And I couldn't do anything right. And here are all the reasons why, right.

[00:20:03] Like our, our brain will find evidence for whatever we tell it. And I had, I had found plenty of evidence for things that weren't true, but I had found the evidence for it. So I was living in this constant state, you know, by this point I was. It's kind of interesting because I was sick, secluding by this point because I was, so miserable.

[00:20:23] And so I just had, I just had a cat die a couple of months ago and she was almost 20 years old and I had her during that time and she was so scared of people because for the first three or four years of her life, she never saw another indicator. Beside me because I had, and when I say secluded, I was still going to a job.

[00:20:43] I was still working, but I was, I had no friends at that point. Right. Like, I didn't think I was worthy of, to be around. I didn't know how to function. It was just too much to be around other people. And so I just remember at that point, right. That was my piece. Where would these two little kitties that I had that were there or my joy.

[00:21:04] But yeah, so for me it started really kind of going back to the thing I talked about with the health of weight. Like I can question what I'm being told, and I can question what I'm telling myself and what am I telling myself.

[00:21:21] Damaged Parents: Hm.

[00:21:22] Robyn Moore: Is that really true? Like, I, I know I believed it, but is it really true? And is there any upside to me continuing to tell myself these things?

[00:21:30] Damaged Parents: Um,

[00:21:31] Robyn Moore: And so if, these things that I'm telling myself are hurting me, what are things that would help. And those are the things that I began to tell myself. And I didn't believe him at first.

[00:21:42] Right. But as I started to tell myself these things, I then started to believe them little by little, and that's what really

[00:21:52] really started changing my life.

[00:21:53] Damaged Parents: Hmm.

[00:21:54] So did you have a therapist or someone helping you or was it, did it just come to you? Oh, I can question these thoughts.

[00:22:02] Robyn Moore: Yeah, I, that's a great question. I did have therapists

[00:22:06] often on for the years, but I don't believe that that ever. It was talked about in therapy. I think it really was. I think it was my mom that so many things always come back to, the role of the mom. Right. And how much, but I think she was, was telling me that, but I think it took me a little while to start to listen.

[00:22:27] Damaged Parents: As far as like that, you could question those thoughts.

[00:22:31] Robyn Moore: Yes. And what the truth was about myself. Right. And my faith is really important to me. So it's what does the Bible, what does God say about me? Right. And so I started speaking. Those truths into my life. Because right. I, I believe the Bible, I just didn't believe they were true about me. Right? Like you couldn't believe what he said about me was true.

[00:22:51] And so that's really where I started. I started finding what the Bible said about me and I started speaking those truths into my life.

[00:22:59] Damaged Parents: And when you say speaking those truths, did you like have tape up affirmations on your mirror?

[00:23:06] Robyn Moore: Yeah, that was one

[00:23:07] Damaged Parents: where you oh, wow. Okay.

[00:23:09] Robyn Moore: that was one way.

[00:23:10] Damaged Parents: What were you doing?

[00:23:11] Robyn Moore: Yeah. So I was I was saying those truths to myself. I was saying them out loud, there's power in our words. I don't know if you've ever read any of the studies about our seen any of those.

[00:23:22] Damaged Parents: Talk about them. Go for

[00:23:23] Robyn Moore: Yeah. Yeah. There's, there's so many of them, but one is I think it.

[00:23:27] was a third grade classroom.

[00:23:28] They. Took a bowl of white rice and two bowls of white rice. And they had the kids every day for a month. Every time they came in one, they would speak blessings, nice words to write. And the other words they would speak mean to write curse at this, this, this rice they end of 30 days, the ones that they spoke causally to was the same white rice.

[00:23:52] The one they spoke negatively to had turned black. And there's been studies. This is the same thing. They've done it with my mom. Actually, we did it with the ice, with water that you freeze the same thing. One is crystal clear one is all jaggedy looks like a completely different, the same freezer, the same thing, advice.

[00:24:10] So, there's, there's been so many studies about these, right? But there's

[00:24:15] Damaged Parents: And so, but you're talking about not just because there was one way you had been talking to yourself in your mind, and yet there's this other way of speaking out into the world. So I think maybe part of the, what you're, what I'm hearing and what you're saying is that. Even if it's just inside there's power inside my body, that would be come jaggedy or, black or, what have you

[00:24:42] Robyn Moore: Yes.

[00:24:42] Damaged Parents: way to explain it.

[00:24:43] Robyn Moore: Yeah. So absolutely what we're telling ourselves, right. Are either building us up or putting us down. Right. Absolutely. But there's another layer to that as far as our words. Right. So I could, I could have affirmations things that I would say, and I could just think them, and that would, that would be fantastic.

[00:25:03] Right. But if you want to add another layer, you speak it because they're words that are spoken, never dies.

[00:25:09] Damaged Parents: like more power or more energy into it.

[00:25:13] Robyn Moore: Yes. Yeah. And so then I begin to speak it. Then I begin to look at myself in the mirror, right? Like there were, these were all stages. Then I begin to look at myself. And my posture was different when I started saying them, right? Like all these are kind of what seemed like little things, but these are all things that really can bring them in.

[00:25:32] Right. And then I started, you know, journaling was a huge thing for me. And it comes to now, like we're. I journal, like, if something's on my mind, I'm like two sentences in and I'm already turning it around. I'm like, well, no, but here's the deal, right? Like here's so that's how my journaling now it used to just be a great section.

[00:25:50] Right. You sit as me. And that was fine. I was getting out on paper. Right. I surrounded my myself with people. Right. Like, we're not meant to be alone. And so we asked her, surrounding myself with people, with relationships. I mentioned my faith is important, right? So I prayer and the Bible and those, those feeding, those things listening to uplifting music during the day, like.

[00:26:14] There's so many tools out there and different tools resonate with different people. But but all of those things may seem very simple, but they're extremely each and every one of them is extremely powerful.

[00:26:30] Damaged Parents: I'm just wondering, I mean, did you also change what you were watching on TV or,

[00:26:35] Robyn Moore: So I haven't watched the news then probably 25 years.

[00:26:39] Damaged Parents: oh, wow.

[00:26:40] Robyn Moore: And, and so when people say, I mean, my friends know, like if some major event happens, they need to text or tell me um, like I may see it on Facebook or something, but I literally, I just don't watch the news. And that started way back then. Right. Like, I realized that I had enough negativity going on in my brain.

[00:27:00] I didn't need to throw any more into it. Yeah.

[00:27:02] I started that years ago. I mean, things that I did. You know that I learned regarding my sleep. Cause I told you I never got more than three hours. So I mean, I still, I've not had a TV in my room in 20 years. Right. Like, you know, there's just, I guess things that I don't even think about T S that question that, that I that I learned way back then, and I guess that's still put a lot of those into practice.

[00:27:25] Cause I know for me, I know that the new. Is not going to uplift me. It's just going to frustrate me. And I know I can only take a very small amount of that to, to, to put me in a different, and I know I'm not going to watch the news and solve the world's problems. Like there's not, there's not anything that.

[00:27:42] The scene that I could contribute had, I know, does that make sense? I mean, there is, there is a sense that you need to know a few things and that's why key people in my life and helped me know what I need to keep.

[00:27:54] Damaged Parents: They're like, Hey, you need to check this out. Something's happening.

[00:27:57] Robyn Moore: Yeah, yeah.

[00:27:58] Damaged Parents: Oh, wow. So if someone was. I don't know the beginning, middle end of your like, like in your similar struggle or maybe they're on the, all that medicine or they have all that extra weight or they have the mental health issues. What would be the top three things that you would say, maybe try this, or maybe start here.

[00:28:18] Robyn Moore: Yeah, I think the first thing is. To believe, and you may have to rest on somebody else's belief. Right. But you have to believe that things can be better. That life can be different. Right. You have to open up your heart to you know, because the sense of frustration and things are never going to change, just leave you stuck.

[00:28:39] Right. So you have to open up your mind to the possibility And then I think it's, it's important. You know, I mentioned earlier to have people in your life to have relationships and, and there are different kinds of relationships, but I'm talking about the kind that are going to be truthful and honest and give you wise counsel and that you respect and listen to.

[00:28:58] Because so many of the stories we tell ourselves, like I said earlier, they seem so real. But if you have somebody in your life, that's questioning you on that. That's holding you accountable to those. I think that's really important. And then, I, I think you said three, so I think the other one is, learning.

[00:29:17] Learning to we, we have 60,000 thoughts a day, right? So we're not going to be able to capture all of those, all of those thoughts. But I think when you start to learn the patterns, when you start to identify the patterns in your life, because the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So when you start to identify those patterns I think.

[00:29:39] Those digging into those patterns and the truth of what you're believing and deciding whether you want to continue to believe that or not, or change. Those is where you're going to see exponential change in your life.

[00:29:52] Damaged Parents: Hmm. Gosh, I feel like we could have kept talking forever.

[00:29:57] Robyn Moore: This is fun. I love it.

[00:29:59] Damaged Parents: It's just fun. And I love the, I think it was the second one, like surround yourself with people who are willing to basically check you, like check your thoughts or question them in. And I don't think I've ever, ever heard that one before.

[00:30:14] And I think that is so beautiful because sometimes I, how, how do I know if I don't know? And how do I know? And you said life happened. I think early in the relationship life happens or earlier in the interview, life happens in relationships. And, and so you surrounded, you, you've made sure to keep people around you.

[00:30:31] So I think like those are some really interesting things to think about. And I just did thinking about, even in relationship, if there's not someone there who's going to be like, are you sure that there are deaf, there are definite mirrors. And that can be kind of scary when I think about it.

[00:30:46] Robyn Moore: Hmm. Hmm. Yeah. And it comes from a place like, we all know people that, that, Just like to complain or talk about the situation or whatever, and that's fine. Like, we all need that at times, but but if, if you're really wanting to change or see things different in your life, right. And, and that's what like, with, with my clients, I tell them, I'm going to be honest.

[00:31:06] I'm going to tell you everything in love, but I'm going to be. Because that's my job, right? If you want to get better, you want to see things be differently than you need people in your life that are gonna be honest with you and tell you the parts you can change. Cause we can talk about other people and how they can need to change all day.

[00:31:24] But guess what? We don't have any control over that.

[00:31:27] Damaged Parents: Isn't that the truth. Everybody, you can find Robyn Moore at https://robynmoorecoaching.com. She's on Facebook, Robyn.moore.16, M O O R E. And I think I saw, and Instagram is Robynmoorecoaching. Thank you so much for coming on the show. I really appreciate it.

[00:31:50] Robyn Moore: Yeah, thank you so much. And also just to note, it's Robyn with a Y I know a lot of people will be looking for the I, so just to make that little note,

[00:32:00] Damaged Parents: that is actually really important. And I got the "Moore" I missed the "Y" and I'm so grateful that I have you here to be like, watch out for the "Y" thank you so much.

[00:32:11] Robyn Moore: thank you.

[00:32:13] Damaged Parents: We really enjoyed talking to Robyn about how she overcame severe depression and anxiety and was able to get her health back. We especially liked when she spoke about getting off the medication and how it changed her body to unite with other damaged people connect with us on Instagram look for damaged parents will be here next week. Still relatively damaged. See you then.