S3E15 - Marita Rahlenbeck - Divorce and Ultimate Healing
Marita Rahlenbeck learned to look through the lens of life differently as she went through her divorce and learned how to heal.
Marita Rahlenbeck is a Transformational Coach with a focus on creating a lifestyle through a holistic lens. It's time to bring all of you into all you do.
She coaches women move through their quiet unhappiness (or sometimes it has gotten rather loud) to a place where they access their Quintessential Self. That's where women step into a place of power and embodiment!
Marita also works with high energy products that support humans not only on a physical body level, but emotionally and spiritually which opens them into a state of expansion.
She is a published author and course creator.
Social media and contact information:
https://www.facebook.com/QuintessentialMarita
https://www.facebook.com/groups/HolisticGatheringPlace
https://www.instagram.com/harmonicwholeness/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCG-qKCNXOtNnAniMWAPXw8g
www.HarmonicWholeness.com
Podcast Transcript
[00:00:00] Damaged Parents: Welcome back to Relatively Damaged by Damaged Parents. Today we have Marita Rahlenback with us and she is a transformational coach with a focus on creating a lifestyle through a holistic lens. It's time to bring all of you into all you do.
[00:00:15] Damaged Parents: She coaches women on how to move through their quiet unhappiness or sometimes. You know that quiet unhappiness gets super loud. So she is the one, uh, where you find a place and you guys can access and work together your quintessential self. That's where women step into their place of power and embodiment.
[00:00:39] Damaged Parents: Marita also works with high energy products that support humans, not only on a physical level, but on emotionally and spiritual level as well. She is also a published author and a course creator.
[00:00:51] Damaged Parents: Marita, you are a busy woman. Welcome to the show, .
[00:00:55] Marita Rahlenbeck: I am a busy woman. Yes. Thank you for having me.
[00:01:00] Damaged Parents: Oh, absolutely. I mean, I am sure that things have gotten hard in your life, and how did you keep going. How, I mean, how do you keep doing all of these things that you do when things get tough?
[00:01:16] Marita Rahlenbeck: I think the answer to that is to remember your calling. To remember like, part of my job is to help people remember why they've actually come.
[00:01:30] Marita Rahlenbeck: And so when my life starts to spiral into a negative negative Nelly, I need to remember why I've come, because sometimes we all wanna just crawl into the hole and you know, like I, I think I'll just hibernate for a month and youI need to remember why I've come and whom I'm here to serve. And then in turn, that's what I help my clients do as well.
[00:02:00] Damaged Parents: Right? So if somebody's got like five things happen in a row and they're just overwhelmed, I mean, you know, let's assume this is in your life and you've been, I'm, I'm betting you've probably been there,
[00:02:13] Marita Rahlenbeck: just a wee bit. Yes. .
[00:02:15] Damaged Parents: Ok. Ok. So they've got all these things coming at 'em and they're feeling like, oh my gosh, if I even step out of the house, something else is gonna hit me too. Have you ever had those thoughts? And when you did, what did you do to get to that next step?
[00:02:33] Marita Rahlenbeck: Well, honestly, when, when it comes piling on like that, the first thing I do was, well just bring it on. Let's get it over with. I mean, I just get into this little hissy fit and it's like, let, let's just do it all at once, you know, rather than.
[00:02:46] Marita Rahlenbeck: okay, well, we'll do with this now and then in a month we'll do it. Let's just do it all now. And then the result is an explosive like uplevel, right? Because you're, if you're willing to look at your shit, if I may say if you're willing to look at it and to work through it, there is a gift on the other side, and that gift is an uplevel in your consciousness and
[00:03:11] Marita Rahlenbeck: how you view life and how you live your life and all of those types of things. So the first thing really is to the first natural response is to, I wanna shut the door and I wanna hibernate. But, or, and the best thing to do is just say, bring it on. Let me work my way through this. If you need to, you hire someone.
[00:03:33] Marita Rahlenbeck: That's, I think the beauty of hiring a coach or a mentor is they're not emotionally entangled in all the players of what you're doing. You know, your friends are emotionally entangled because then just because they are, it's just human nature. But when you have a third party, they're, it's easier to take a different perspective from someone who's neutral.
[00:04:00] Damaged Parents: Hmm.
[00:04:00] Marita Rahlenbeck: You know what I'm saying?
[00:04:01] Damaged Parents: So you get hit all these things start coming at you. You, what you're saying is, well, okay, bring it on. And when you get to that point, because it sounded like maybe at first you start kind of going down that, that negative uh, Nelly road and maybe you recognize that.
[00:04:22] Damaged Parents: and then you say, you know, bring it on and then it, uplifts you , to keep going or gives you energy. Right. Okay. So I
[00:04:29] Marita Rahlenbeck: will have, I'll say, oh, right. I will say, excuse me, that I see that now, but when I first started really with my, with my upheaval, with my marriage that was falling apart and everything, everything was falling apart.
[00:04:46] Marita Rahlenbeck: I didn't see it like that at all. .
[00:04:48] Damaged Parents: Okay.
[00:04:48] Marita Rahlenbeck: I was so much in the forest, I couldn't see anything except . Just like my life sucks, you know, . So your perspective changes as you, as you take on the responsibility of wanting to move through it and to,
[00:05:05] Damaged Parents: Hmm.
[00:05:06] Marita Rahlenbeck: You know what I'm saying? It's a, it's a consciousness thing of, of um, moving from the blaming to the accepting that I have a role to play in my life.
[00:05:17] Damaged Parents: How, okay. How did you do that? Because it's, I think it's really easy to get stuck in blaming. It's so much easier to stay in blaming.
[00:05:28] Marita Rahlenbeck: Totally. But blaming doesn't. I does Blaming doesn't fix anything at all
[00:05:34] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm. .
[00:05:35] Marita Rahlenbeck: And I, I will say that I had a when I, when my marriage was like completely tumultuous, I had a part-time job and I just remember, I don't remember what the conversation was, but it was my boss who was like the director of this department and then his right hand person, and it was, and me, so the three of us were having some conversation.
[00:05:59] Marita Rahlenbeck: I said something and he said something about that I was blaming. So he like I, whatever he said, he used the word blame and it was the first time that I was like, huh, was I blaming?
[00:06:13] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm
[00:06:13] Marita Rahlenbeck: And because I don't remember the circumstances, I honestly don't know. But that was his perspective. And it real clearly after all these years, I still remember that moment.
[00:06:21] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm.
[00:06:22] Marita Rahlenbeck: when, when you have this awareness that, well, I can blame you for my shitty life or I can take responsibility and extract myself out of this relationship and create something new.
[00:06:38] Damaged Parents: Was that scary?
[00:06:42] Marita Rahlenbeck: Absolutely not scary. Terrifying.
[00:06:45] Damaged Parents: Okay. When you say terrifying, what, what kind of thoughts were going through your head?
[00:06:51] Damaged Parents: Oh, what did terrifying feel like and, and sound like in thought process?
[00:06:56] Marita Rahlenbeck: That's a great question. Well, I have to give you some context. So I was raised with, you know, you go to school, you get the job, you find the husband, you buy the house, it has a white picket fence around it. You have children and you live happily ever after.
[00:07:16] Marita Rahlenbeck: That was the scenario that was in my head
[00:07:20] Damaged Parents: of the story of what life was supposed to look like.
[00:07:23] Marita Rahlenbeck: That's what, what life was supposed to be like. Yes. . And then add to that, I was deeply steeped into the church Christian tradition, which is thou shalt not get divorced ever. Ever ? Yes, . Can
[00:07:42] Damaged Parents: I just tell you I relate on that once on such a deep level?
[00:07:46] Damaged Parents: I have to say, I relate with you on such a deep vow right there.
[00:07:50] Marita Rahlenbeck: Yes. Well, cause you know, I, I had a vow like, you know what God has put together, let no man put us under. Right. And here I am asundering it. . You know, . And it was really hard. It was really hard to, because that's what I mean when, when my relationship ended.
[00:08:10] Marita Rahlenbeck: It wasn't just the relationship, it was all of those things that society said life should look like. All of those things that the church said your life should look like. I mean, all of my belief systems came tumbling down and I needed to and I didn't know what to pick up.
[00:08:31] Damaged Parents: Mm. . Yeah.
[00:08:32] Marita Rahlenbeck: Which meant if I'm letting it tumble down, I'm erasing the chalkboard.
[00:08:38] Marita Rahlenbeck: Right? Wow. And then I get to fill it up again, but I didn't really, you know, I know it now, right. But I didn't know what, that's what I was doing then. I remember going to the library and I came out with 25 books on all kinds of stuff. Like my mother would've like, oh my God. , all these different type of religions and spiritual practices and all this esoteric stuff.
[00:09:02] Marita Rahlenbeck: I mean, that's just where I went and it, oh my God, it was a dark time. A very dark time.
[00:09:08] Damaged Parents: So you're in this terrifying place and you go to the library , and you get 25 books. And what was your idea or thought that h I mean, was it. They would have the answer. Did you read all of the books? I mean, I have so many questions.
[00:09:26] Marita Rahlenbeck: I probably did not read all of the books but it really spoke to how confused I was. Mm-hmm. , you know, the variety of topics, like I should have had a shopping bag. . I, I don't even know how I got 'em into the car, but I literally counted, they were 25 books. So it was very Terri. I had a six-year-old daughter.
[00:09:42] Marita Rahlenbeck: And when I was pregnant, I left the job market. So I was a stay-at-home mom. And when I left the job market, you're going to laugh when you turned a computer off. It was the kind that you literally, you needed to hug to turn it off like the little nobby was in the back.
[00:10:01] Damaged Parents: Yeah. And they were thick and long.
[00:10:02] Marita Rahlenbeck: Yes. Like yes,
[00:10:04] Damaged Parents: A foot long, maybe more than a foot .
[00:10:07] Marita Rahlenbeck: And then I'm going back into the market and I don't know how to do all this stuff. I mean, I didn't know how to do anything, and I have to now go and raise my child.
[00:10:17] Damaged Parents: So, were you a single parent or did you share custody? How did that work?
[00:10:22] Marita Rahlenbeck: I was a single parent.
[00:10:24] Marita Rahlenbeck: We did not do joint custody, just honestly, because he knew it would not be a good recipe. So he did take her every other, you know, we did all, all the things, but he didn't have the legal right to have her, if you know what I'm saying, right?
[00:10:42] Damaged Parents: Yeah. Just the paperwork we quick.
[00:10:43] Marita Rahlenbeck: Yeah. We really put her in front of all of our junk,
[00:10:49] Damaged Parents: so, and how hard was that? Or how easy was that?
[00:10:54] Marita Rahlenbeck: Honestly? Well in the beginning it was, it was hard. But because we put it, we put her first for us, at any rate, it made it easier because it wasn't about us. We could put our shit aside and, and it's about her, right? Mm-hmm. . Yeah. So I don't know what else to say about that. Yeah, yeah.
[00:11:13] Damaged Parents: No. Well, I was just wondering now you're still, as you're parenting this child, I mean, you're still processing all of this pain and, and the chalkboard is, Been erased, . So h how did you start putting that back together or putting things back on the chalkboard?
[00:11:31] Marita Rahlenbeck: I started, well I ended up I end ended up like taking classes.
[00:11:39] Marita Rahlenbeck: I found a little metaphysical store locally and that was like this super cool place where you could learn. Whatever, you know, I took a dream class and I took a class on rocks and or crystals, and I found a retreat and I went on a retreat. I mean, I just started like experimenting.
[00:12:00] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm. .
[00:12:00] Marita Rahlenbeck: I, I've done a lot of weird stuff and it's, it's interesting.
[00:12:03] Marita Rahlenbeck: You know, what, what stays, you know, like I, they studied herbs and I studied tinctures and all these things, and so like I know about them, but then. . As you begin to explore all the things that are, are of interest to you, then you kinda land and that becomes more of a foundation. Mm-hmm. , and then, you know, you branch out and learn more and those types of things.
[00:12:28] Damaged Parents: Were you working a regular job or did this become, and then this somehow became your
[00:12:35] Marita Rahlenbeck: Well, I had a, what was, what did I do? I worked a temp job. Like, during this whole tumultuous thing, I had a temp job and I'm never, I've never been good with like a nine to five, Monday through Friday.
[00:12:50] Marita Rahlenbeck: Oh, God. 40 hours a week. I, I've never been good with that, ever. And so having a temp job was good because, you know, it was kind of like, I'm the boss, , and I had like a nine to three, I don't know, something like, something like that and I worked for the director of actually a local branch of the American Diabetes Association.
[00:13:15] Marita Rahlenbeck: Oh, wow. And he had me do this project, and I did really well, I guess. And he ha he wanted to hire me full-time, but I would actually make less money than I was making as a te as a temp. And it's like, I've got a, I've got a kid, you know, it's, that doesn't, that doesn't work. You know? Yeah. So I started out doing temp jobs and then um,
[00:13:35] Marita Rahlenbeck: What happened was I discovered young living essential oils and that whole thing. That's then where I went and took a gazillion million classes. And it wasn't just on oils, it was on health, it was on and, and I learned things about, you know, the big pharma and this and all that, all that stuff, what goes on with big business and , honestly, that became the foundation of what ended up becoming a business.
[00:14:01] Marita Rahlenbeck: So over the last 25 years, it's really, it's really morphed and I've kind of let, let the like the health coaching, if you will, I've kind of let that kind of sit over here. And I really like working more with, with women. I call them quietly unhappy because that's what I was mm-hmm. like, I, I really thought that I had the facade white, nicely whitewashed
[00:14:28] Damaged Parents: that no one could see.
[00:14:30] Marita Rahlenbeck: Yeah, that was a lie. Yeah, that was a lie. So I, yeah, that was a lie. I actually had a friend of mine she invited me over for Thanksgiving one year that my daughter was going to her dad's family. So I was, and she invited me out for dinner and after dinner she took me away and she sequestered me out in a, like a different part of the house and she basically said, you need to get out because it's killing you.
[00:15:00] Marita Rahlenbeck: and I, like I said, I really thought I had a good whitewash job going on. Mm-hmm. and she could see that it was, it was suffocating me. so that was Thanksgiving. And by before the end of the year, I was out with a lot of help from a lot of people. And we kept it secret and it meant a lot of strategy of, you know, like I couldn't pack things because.
[00:15:21] Marita Rahlenbeck: We live in the same house, you know, , right. . So, yeah, it was really something. It was really something.
[00:15:28] Damaged Parents: Is that, did that feel humbling in that moment, or did
[00:15:32] Marita Rahlenbeck: Yes.
[00:15:33] Damaged Parents: And did you feel loved
[00:15:36] Marita Rahlenbeck: Yes.
[00:15:36] Damaged Parents: When she said that? Or was it Okay. So it was a, a very much a loving,
[00:15:42] Marita Rahlenbeck: yeah. It wasn't, it wasn't like a, you know, accusing, it was really just You need to get out, you know, like this.
[00:15:51] Damaged Parents: Yeah.
[00:15:51] Marita Rahlenbeck: Loving embrace of And she said, and I'll do anything that's been so long. This was 1996. Mm-hmm. So it's been a long time. I'll do anything to help you. I'll do anything to help you. So we took that to my parents cuz they wintered in Florida. They left after Christmas. and, and basically I lived with, I lived at my parents' house while they were in Florida, and then I found another place to live, but it took, it took a village to get me out of the house because I really, and I didn't understand the law that even though, I mean, I didn't know if I would ever see the inside of the house again, just because he could be so unpredictable, you know?
[00:16:37] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm. .
[00:16:37] Marita Rahlenbeck: So I, I make ch, I made choices. as if I would never be in that house again of what I took and what I left. And, and I wasn't a bitch, you know, I didn't take everything, you know, that's not my style. So, and I think that's one reason that we got along is like, I didn't, I didn't take 'em to the cleaners, you know?
[00:17:02] Damaged Parents: Yeah.
[00:17:02] Marita Rahlenbeck: So I never, I never was a man hater. In fact, another friend of mine, she's like, I'm surprised you don't hate men. It's like, why would I hate men? You know, like, but, but women do, they, they leave a marriage and they hate all men,
[00:17:15] Damaged Parents: which is Yes, they do. And it's so sad. It's such a big globalization that happens.
[00:17:20] Damaged Parents: Yeah. I remember at work one time a gal made a comment about men and I said, well, women do the same thing. And I remember her looking at me going,
[00:17:34] Damaged Parents: like I just totally blew her belief outta the water. Just by the comment.
[00:17:39] Marita Rahlenbeck: Right,
[00:17:39] Damaged Parents: because
[00:17:40] Marita Rahlenbeck: right
[00:17:41] Damaged Parents: now she can forget. Well, yeah. Cause cuz there's this, this thing sometimes I think when we get hurt, we that blame, right? Well it's men. Well it's women. No, it's humans. It's human.
[00:17:53] Marita Rahlenbeck: Yes. It's a human condition. And sometimes women are more nasty than men.
[00:17:59] Damaged Parents: Yeah. I think it, it just depends on the situation. But you managed to get out live with the parents and you said later you became friends.
[00:18:11] Marita Rahlenbeck: Yes.
[00:18:12] Damaged Parents: How, how did you do that?
[00:18:14] Marita Rahlenbeck: I,
[00:18:15] Damaged Parents: or how did, what was your part in that? Because it takes two .
[00:18:19] Marita Rahlenbeck: Exactly. How do we do that? Honestly, it was, we always put our daughter first it.
[00:18:25] Marita Rahlenbeck: That was like, we always put our daughter first and he was extremely good to me. And he ne he didn't drive. So I was the kind of person that would say something like, well, I'm gonna be up in your area. , do you need to do an errand or do you need me to bring something? Or I'm going here, do you want me to pick something up?
[00:18:45] Marita Rahlenbeck: You know, it wasn't, but I was not looking for anything in exchange.
[00:18:50] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm. .
[00:18:50] Marita Rahlenbeck: So there was that, but he was also very, very generous with just himself and who he was and things like that. And it w it just, it just, I don't know. It just happened. And then one year he , he called me and he said and I can't remember now if he said, I think he said, my mother would like to know if you'd like to come down for Christmas Eve.
[00:19:18] Marita Rahlenbeck: Because again, I was always alone for the holidays.
[00:19:21] Damaged Parents: Hmm.
[00:19:21] Marita Rahlenbeck: Was because then after, after a while, my parents moved to Florida full-time. So they were gone. And I literally, I literally said are you sure? Like you, you're, you're asking me to come down for Christmas? He's, he's the, he was the oldest of 12 children. So we're talking like mammothly, huge, lots of people.
[00:19:44] Marita Rahlenbeck: And the more people that were there, the more people I didn't know, , you know, like, I dunno, who was, who's with whom. And and, and I said, I said, why? And his answer was, well, we think it's been long enough. And that was nine years after we had been divorced. And so I remember I brought a bottle of wine for Dad and I brought a box of chocolates for mom or the other way around, I don't know.
[00:20:12] Marita Rahlenbeck: But you know, I brought them each a gift and my daughter hated going to his side of the family. I'm like, you can go with me and you can leave with me, but we have to go like there. We just can't not go with such an invitation. And so we, I mean, I made a point of spending time with his parents.
[00:20:30] Marita Rahlenbeck: and then after whatever, after a short while, then we, we left, you know? But that was the pivotal point, I think.
[00:20:37] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm.
[00:20:38] Marita Rahlenbeck: where even his parents, well his mother was an, an, she was an angel, but his dad had a lot of animosity toward me because I was, I was the one that broke up the marriage, you know, it was all my fault.
[00:20:50] Marita Rahlenbeck: And He would, John would, my husband, whatever, my ex-husband would go down and he would come back and he'd be really nasty. And I would go, oh, you were, you were with your parents today. Well today weren't you? And he'd say, yeah. And I'd go, okay, we'll talk in a week. And I literally just like, I'm not talking to you for a week.
[00:21:08] Marita Rahlenbeck: And then his nice little personality would come back. But but they kind of admitted, you know, like you can come back into the fold if you want . I mean, I didn't do that a lot at all.
[00:21:23] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm. ,
[00:21:23] Marita Rahlenbeck: but um, that was a big deal to be included for Christmas.
[00:21:27] Damaged Parents: Yeah.
[00:21:28] Damaged Parents: it almost signifies healing on an even deeper level.
[00:21:32] Damaged Parents: But it sounds like the, your ex could be, You know, when it, the marriage there was clearly something that wasn't working there. And then with the space, whatever it was mm-hmm. was able to heal. And then when, when those behaviors did come up, you were able to say, oh no, I'm not gonna spend time with you right now.
[00:21:51] Damaged Parents: You just we're gonna, I'll see you later.
[00:21:54] Marita Rahlenbeck: Right.
[00:21:55] Damaged Parents: Yeah.
[00:21:55] Marita Rahlenbeck: And there were times where, I would, I probably had them too. I'm, I'm just so glad we don't have to live together. , , like we could get along, but I don't have to live in this house. You know, . Yeah. Yeah. So we had a humor about it. We, we had, we had humor around our daughter were, you know, like your daughter, blah, blah.
[00:22:17] Marita Rahlenbeck: And then sometimes she was our daughter. You know, and sometimes she was my daughter, so we had those jokes too, you know?
[00:22:24] Damaged Parents: Yeah.
[00:22:25] Marita Rahlenbeck: We kept the humor alive and yeah. It was really, really something.
[00:22:30] Damaged Parents: Yeah. And it sounds like it took time from, from when you left, it took time for that whole process to happen, so, and, and I like how you said Well, it just happened.
[00:22:39] Marita Rahlenbeck: Yeah.
[00:22:39] Damaged Parents: I don't know what,
[00:22:40] Marita Rahlenbeck: yes.
[00:22:41] Damaged Parents: I don't exactly know. I can tell you I stayed open. This is what I did. , but it could have gone either way. I'm thinking is what your, you know, like your thought process is like, well, I don't know really. At the end of the day,
[00:22:54] Marita Rahlenbeck: well, you don't know, you know, he never remarried. So if, if he had, what would that have done?
[00:23:00] Marita Rahlenbeck: I don't, again, I don't know.
[00:23:02] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm. .
[00:23:03] Marita Rahlenbeck: But he had a very gentle disposition that that served the lack of conflict. once we were apart, you know, once the divorce was final and he really understood that this is really happening, honey. You know, then he had to do his healing too, which we honestly never talked about.
[00:23:22] Marita Rahlenbeck: So I don't know what his process was.
[00:23:25] Damaged Parents: Oh, that's, that's amazing. Mm-hmm. . So if someone were in that situation today mm-hmm. . and you had three, you were able to give them three tips or tools or just three things to think about. What would those three things be?
[00:23:42] Marita Rahlenbeck: Oh, that's a really good question. I think compassion is super important for not only, you've got three things to have compassion around and that's just the couple that I, the, we don't know if there's children, but you have to have compassion for the other individual and yourself and also the relationship. Because if you've been, let's just say you, you've been, you dated for two years. You're engaged for a year, and you're married for 10.
[00:24:14] Marita Rahlenbeck: That's a long time. That's, what did I say? 13 years.
[00:24:17] Damaged Parents: Yeah,
[00:24:18] Marita Rahlenbeck: that's 13 years. And let's say you're 30 okay. That's almost half your life. And I think that when you have that perspective that this is a big chunk of your life and you gave it to this individual and to the relationship. So trying to like totally set it aside and forget what you once had.
[00:24:47] Marita Rahlenbeck: I mean, things go south and things blow up, but you still had something. That's why you've been with this person for that long, right?
[00:24:55] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm. .
[00:24:56] Marita Rahlenbeck: And so I think compassion is usually is hugely important and so is forgiveness.
[00:25:00] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm.
[00:25:00] Marita Rahlenbeck: You know, holding G grudge is just, it's bullshit. It, it doesn't, it, it doesn't hurt that person.
[00:25:06] Marita Rahlenbeck: It hurts you. and makes you bitter. And then that's like that, that cascades into a whole bunch of stuff. It's not just an emotion. It literally impacts your physicality and rewires your brain and all, you know, kinds of things. So, you know, that's hugely important. And so compassion and forgiveness, and then being open to rewriting a future.
[00:25:33] Damaged Parents: Mm.
[00:25:33] Marita Rahlenbeck: You know, it doesn't have to. , it doesn't have to be ugly. You know, looking back on your, on that relationship, whether you were married or not, you know, you could be in a relationship for whatever, five years and it doesn't go anywhere, quote. Right, right. But it's still five years. It's still foundational in who you are.
[00:25:54] Marita Rahlenbeck: It's a, it's a lens that you're gonna look through relationships through or with , you know what I mean?
[00:26:01] Damaged Parents: Yeah. .
[00:26:03] Marita Rahlenbeck: That's beautiful. That's beautiful.
[00:26:05] Damaged Parents: Thank you.
[00:26:06] Damaged Parents: Well, everyone, this was Marita Rahlenbeck you can find her on https://harmonicwholeness.com. If you're looking in the dubily doo, which I love to say that now.
[00:26:15] Damaged Parents: I stole it from Scott Carney. Don't tell anybody .
[00:26:18] Damaged Parents: Uh,
[00:26:19] Damaged Parents: But that's the, that's the little area down below. You can click on the links and it will take you to her Facebook, her Instagram, her groups, her YouTube channel, and we'll also have the link to her website there. So thank you so much for coming on the show and sharing your story.
[00:26:33] Marita Rahlenbeck: Oh, you're welcome. You know, and I, if I might, I'd like to offer a gift to your audience. Would that be all right?
[00:26:39] Damaged Parents: That would totally be all right. Thank you.
[00:26:41] Marita Rahlenbeck: Oh, you're welcome. I have something that I, it's called Grace Notes. , it's a co, a beautifully compiled little downloadable booklet, if you will, of what I call Grace Notes.
[00:26:54] Marita Rahlenbeck: I've written a book called Living with Grace, and I've extracted I don't know, I think it's like 30 different quotes that are really quite. Profound. And that's just a gift that I have for people like you listening and I'd love to offer that to you if that's something that you're interested in.
[00:27:14] Marita Rahlenbeck: And it's https://GraceNoteswithGrace.com. Super simple.
[00:27:19] Marita Rahlenbeck: https://GraceNoteswithGrace.com.
[00:27:21] Damaged Parents: Got it. Awesome. Easy enough. Thank you for that. It's an honor to our listeners, to myself that you're offering it. So thank you so much. And yeah, I can't you guys check Marita out. She's pretty darn cool. .
Thank you for listening to this week's episode of Relatively Damaged by Damaged Parents. We really enjoyed talking to Marita about how she left a dysfunctional marriage. We especially liked when she spoke about having compassion for ourselves, the other person, and the relationship. To unite with other damaged people connect with us on Instagram. Look for damaged parents. We'll be here next week still relatively damaged See you then
