Episode 87: From Burnout to Alignment with Soul Mission through Self Love and Awakening

Gennye Lion

At the age of 23 Gennye had a strong spiritual experience where she had a soul upgrade called reincarnation in the same body. This left her feeling emotionally disjointed Ann confused about why she was here, what her purpose was and what she was meant to do with her life. After two years of integrating this experience it spurred her into expanding her consciousness and ever since she is a continuous learner of spirituality and personal growth.

Gennye Lion supports women in unlocking their fullest potential, balancing their body and vine, balancing life and business, to find soul success and achieve self mastery. She does this through group mentorship programs, teaching courses, 1: one private mentor ship and her membership connected soul club and magnetic queen tribe.

After working with thousands of people over the past two decades she helps them release their inner limitations and has learned that the greatest avatar is the one you have inside of you you are powerful beyond imagination.

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Podcast Transcript:

Damaged Parents: [00:00:00] Welcome to the Relatively Damaged Podcast by Damaged Parents. We are burnt out misaligned dark night of the soul people come to learn. Maybe just, maybe we're all a little bit damaged.  

Someone once told me it's safe to assume. 50% of the people I meet are struggling and feel wounded in some way. I would venture to say it's closer to 100%.

Every one of us is either currently struggling or has struggled with something that made us feel less than like we aren't good enough. We aren't capable. We are relatively damaged. And that's what we're here to talk about.

In my ongoing investigation of the damage self, I want to better understand how others view their own challenges. Maybe it's not so much about the damage, maybe it's about our perception and how we deal with it. There is a deep commitment to becoming who we are meant to be. How do you do that? How do you find balance after a damaging experience?

My hero is the damaged person. The one who faces seemingly insurmountable odds to come out on the other side hole. Those who stare directly into the face of adversity with unyielding persistence to discover their purpose. These are the people who inspire me to be more fully me. Not in spite of my trials, but because of them, let's hear from another hero.

Today's topic includes sensitive material, which may not appropriate for children. This podcast is provided for informational purposes only and is not intended as advice. The opinions expressed here are strictly those of the person who gave them.

Today, we're going to talk with Jenny Lyon. She has many roles in her that. Today, we're going to talk with Jenny Lyon. She has many roles in her life. Mother wife, daughter, sister step-daughter daughter-in-law and more. We'll talk about how she experienced adrenal burnout in a dark night of the soul at the birth of her son.

Let's talk.  

Today on Relatively Damaged by Damaged Parents. We have Gennye Lion who is a light activator, mentor, and purpose visionary. She helps women visionaries, conscious entrepreneurs and light leader CEOs become impactful leaders through optimizing business energetics and light body activations. We are so glad you are here today.

Gennye Lion: [00:02:22] thank you. I'm very glad that you are having me.

Damaged Parents: [00:02:24] Yeah, no, it's, it's great. It's great. We're here to talk about struggle and, you know, I think it's amazing that leaders in our community leaders, in their communities, that people are willing to be vulnerable and say, you know what? I've been there too. And I think it's fantastic being that you work with CEOs. What do you see are the benefits of being vulnerable in that type of a position in saying, Oh, I've been there or I've made a mistake. And how does that work in the work you do?

Gennye Lion: [00:02:55] so in particular with the work that I do It's deep, it's deep work and we work on it on a deep, emotional level to them to unlock and reach their fullest potential. Not always within their work,  the personal life really, but it obviously emanates into their work because  that's why they do it.

They want to unlock themselves. I have this feeling that. Anyone who's got anywhere in life who has encountered difficulties, they become more humble and rounded leaders. I believe because you get shaped by life. So to be vulnerable and to say that this is, this happened to me.

Makes you also look very, very human isn't it?  so then other people who had the same experience would be, Oh, okay. That's really interesting. You know, I didn't realize that's, does it look like she has gone through that, but it just breaks the barriers down isn't it. So I think it's important.

Yeah.

Damaged Parents: [00:03:58] I think it's really interesting. You said it breaks the barriers down. What. Does that mean in the business sense?

Gennye Lion: [00:04:07] You know, I think that the days are gone where the leaderships are sort of very masculine in, mind and that mind based and very sort of focused on, possibly just profit and things like this. This is like the old way, you know, the new way is very much heart-based connecting with your prospects, or with a bit in the business.

You're in bringing, bringing heart and soul into business because when we have human connection and when we encourage people on a, you just connect with people on this level I don't, I also think you get the most out of them because. The kind of fear and categorizing things. And there has to be specific way and it's sort of like, you know, limited that way.

Only somebody can only Excel so much in that format, but in a heart-based connection. And when you sort of lift each other up and more collaborative and collective, somebody can really Excel in that potential. So. That's working.

Damaged Parents: [00:05:12] So it sounds like what I'm hearing from you is being open and vulnerable and sharing allows for everyone to help each other, if you will. And not just one person is the leader and everyone else is less valuable. Am I picking up on that? Right.

Gennye Lion: [00:05:29] Yeah, I think so. And I think depending on what position you are in as a. You know, a CEO or leader or your own business entrepreneur you wouldn't be vulnerable all the time because you also got to sort of, you know, show leadership. But I think it's the insights of where people can see into your life and into the vulnerability at times creates that human connection.

And just that you're kind of on the same level. Really. we're all doing the same journey. We just have different missions and different ways of expressing ourselves in life and business.

Damaged Parents: [00:06:03] I think what you're also saying is one person, whether they're in a leadership position or another person that's not in a leadership position is one is not better than the other. They're just different in, on a different journey.

Gennye Lion: [00:06:16] of course. Yeah exactly And I think it just brings vulnerability brings just transparency and truth into the picture. Doesn't it? Cause you you're just, you're real, it's important.

Damaged Parents: [00:06:28] Yeah, I think there's a certain amount of freedom that people get by being vulnerable and sharing what they might think are the. Maybe the darkest parts of themselves, or saying this hurts when things happen and speaking of being vulnerable and sharing struggle, you're here to talk about your struggle and, the way you worded it on as your biggest struggle was adrenal burnout and dark night of the soul. And that was at the birth of your son. Could you explain what dark night of the soul means? I have no idea what that is or how to even understand it.

Gennye Lion: [00:07:08] okay. So dark night of soul is usually an upgrade of your spiritual mission, or you have kind of some sort of spiritual awakening and it brings you into dark depression. So it's not like an enlightened, amazing journey. There you go. Wow. I'm enlightened now you go through this experience of a deeper depression and it's not the traditional depression where, you know, you lost your job and we may have done that, but where it's traditionally sort of, perceived that you can go into depression when certain things happen in your life.

It's more like a sudden thing or it's linked to spiritual awakening. So that's the dark night of the soul, so I had that. Yeah.

Damaged Parents: [00:07:52] is it like a heavy feeling? It seems like it was tied to a birth of your son, so was it like that night or that day or

whatever

Gennye Lion: [00:08:01] so, for me, what happened was that I So I'll explain when I was 23, I had the same experience. It's a soul upgrade. Basically. It's one of the, it's a spiritual term and that their soul gets the higher mission here on earth in terms of wanting to help and lead and then awaken others.

And so I had that at 23 at the time, I wasn't clear where that happened and it was really confusing. And I had two years, there was a darkness of, so again, two years, and then it happened again at the birth of my son. So I was like, Hmm, I recognize this. So that was, what happened. But it happened at the birth.

Yes, he was actually.  Emergency cesarean section and they had to had been doing operation on me awake, but under local anesthetics. And what I didn't realize at the time is that if somebody, if the body goes into shock you can actually get adrenal burnout from the shock wireless. Most people would think, Oh, you get adrenal burnout because you've been working too hard and doing too much for a specific period of time.

Which is also true. You can all forget that. But this particular thing was that I, my glands went into shock at the time. I didn't know, the glands went into shock, which caused the adrenal burnout. I had the soul upgrade at the same time in this operation theater. I didn't know. At the time I felt very, very strange though.

Did feel like I was out of my body. So I was like I said to my husband, I'm out of my body. He's like, no, you're fine. Uh, you look fine. I said, I don't, I'm not fine. I said, I'm really not fine. So then we went to the anesthetist and he sort of just went, checked everything. And he was like, no, it seems okay.

All the levels of heartbeat is fine. Everything's fine. I said, you need to give me a tranquilizer, please. You're giving him one. Now I'm really not fine. So he was like, okay. So they gave me that. Uh, as you know, so I've got those I'll but that was the panic. Like, that was how the, I realized something had happened, but I thought it was just because I was in theater like this, and then immediately afterwards, nothing really happened.

I was just doing what all new mothers was doing and I was recovering from operation but actually it was, I think it was four, five months later I had, I didn't, I was out of myself completely for those four months. I was not myself. I couldn't get out of the house for many, many, many, many weeks. I was just really trying to get through it and I thought it was all to do with the operation, because it took a long, long time for the body to recover.

But actually it was the dark night of the soul, but I think, you know, it was a new, it was my second child, but as a new parent, You still so immersed in a child and you're just doing these things that you've kind of, you just put it all down to that whilst normally, if you were feeling like that you'd be like, there's something wrong with it, you know?

Damaged Parents: [00:10:52] Your assumption was that I'm just a new mom and because I'm a new mom, I'm feeling this way and

things are just hard.

Gennye Lion: [00:11:00] it's just hard. Yeah. And it was just a lot harder than the first time around. It was like, 10 times as hard, but I thought, well, it's probably because he's not sleeping as much. And it's probably because, it wasn't getting any better. I felt myself kind of like shattering to the ground more and more every day.

I was like, this is not good, but I have, healers and other people that support me. So I was going for my sessions anyway. And actually not in the first session you came up, I think it was sort of third and fourth session. My healer, my mentor. She said you had soul upgraded after your son.

I was like, ah, shit. Oh my goodness. So she said it's going to be okay. Cause she was the one who realized I had this other thing for, at the age two and three. So she said, it's okay. We'll integrate it in everything. So I had this specific person for it that helped before. And then after that, I was like, back in my body, I felt better, much better, like much better, like 90% better.

And so that, that was, yeah, that was good, but, Oh gosh. Did you know it tooks? Probably. So that was better then. And then after about. Hmm. So another six months I was kind of still struggling really with my energy. And that's when I realized I had the adrenal burnout. And then that took us probably another four years to feel that it was just full on with not realizing really how bad it was, I think.

And you just put it down to that, your a busy parent that actually it was, be quite fast. So I had a lot of. Nutritional balancing programs. And I had acupuncture. I had massage, I had everything like had the feeling I rested I'd napped every day with years. I mean, it was just what it was, but it was, it's taught me to put that enormous amount of self-care in, which I think is something that parents often forget.

I was forced to care for myself before I could care for anyone else. As in immediately, I will still looking after children. But if I felt those was flagging, I was like, no, I've got to go lay down.

Damaged Parents: [00:13:12] So you really had to be consciously aware and I just realized we Didn't could you explain for the listeners what adrenal burnout is? Is it something tested at the doctor's office with all the things that those questions that

Gennye Lion: [00:13:28] yeah. Yeah. So like collectively I think a lot of adults suffer from before or adrenal burnout, not just because they've had something like me, but also the lifestyle, they've had very busy lives. But adrenal burnout is basically where your adrenal glands are working over time to give you the energy and the focus that you need to get through today.

And when they, and they fire up very easily to things like, so for example somebody with adrenal burnout shouldn't have. Caffeine or alcohol or stimulants that all lots of sugar. I mean, other people shouldn't have lots of that anyway, but this really fires them up so that they just like burn.

Then you have this drop where you're just exhausted. So it's basically. The adrenal glands that are completely out of balance, they can't regulate themselves and they kick in, it's almost like a fight or flight, response. People just basically hit the wall. They just need to completely reset everything and rest and take care of themselves.

Damaged Parents: [00:14:39] That's hard in today's world.

Gennye Lion: [00:14:41] It is. Isn't it? Yeah. I contacted, few others that had the same problem or similar with the over COVID working burnout allowance for children. And it was just, it's just, it's quite common. I think it's quite common.

People find their way back, but it's more common that people are just exhausted.

Damaged Parents: [00:14:59] Do people get tested for that at the doctor's office?

Gennye Lion: [00:15:02] Yeah, you can go to the doctor and I think they would see it as an imbalance of the thyroid as well. So although they can't, I don't think they can measure the actual adrenal, then out of itself, but they will do a test on the thyroid and then they will take some tests around that that will determine, uh, in balances in your hormone system.

But the nutritionists are very good with adrenal burnout of qualified nutritionists. They can see it. And other sort of alternative practitioners like the acupuncturist and people working with accupressure and things like that because they can feel the chi, the life, energy, and the what is like really irregular.

And they, they find it in those ways. But the doctor. Yeah, they will probably say, I think they take blood tests, you know, they can take, they took my blood test and they all showed the imbalances in the thyroid and they also thought they could also see that I was pre-menopausal through the blood tests as well.

So yeah, they, they, they did tests

Damaged Parents: [00:16:05] Okay. And. So throughout this process, it sounds like you're mostly working with the healer and going to all these other places and self care was just really key. And it seems like.  That would be really hard , to do. , I'm thinking of someone , who's maybe working and had children and hits that wall that you're talking about. , and how would they even begin to do self care at that point? You know, I'm thinking maybe. Lower middle class, you know, someone who's required that has to keep showing up and showing up and showing up. And it doesn't matter if they've hit the burnout. what types of tools could they use?

Gennye Lion: [00:16:47] Well, you know, for me, it was asking for help. So I'd ask help from my husband, neighbors took my child to school on and off for a few weeks. My mother-in-law will help me. Yeah, as we're helping as, and when, you know, if I needed anything, so I was before, I would never say yes, really to help. But I was like I say, you said yes to everything I said, yeah.

Yeah. Fine. Thank you so much. So that was like a massive thing for somebody who would always be so self going and self-functioning. And so, in my, I was acting in my masculine and often you're getting so much done, getting everything, always sorted and be on top of everything all the time. So that was huge.

The other thing is, okay, so this is probably a little bit difficult when you have a very small baby, but as soon as the child starts to understand more, you can say to them, no mom is tired. I need to lay down. He wanted to come and watch a film with me. You know, you can, you can sort of tailor your day around if you need to, to self care, instead of pushing to run around and play football. You could maybe draw or know you can choose another activity to do with the child. If you have this whole child and just say, that's what we're doing. And if they're protests, well, no tough. Sorry, mommy's rest. It's not what we're doing.

You know, I'm in tonight here and this is for my, if it, maybe it is for my highest good, then it will be to your highest good.. Because I'm looking after you.

Damaged Parents: [00:18:13] Right.

Gennye Lion: [00:18:14] it had to turn around.  I had to really turn that around. Because before it was like, Oh, what can I do that they want to do? Always, which I would still always still do anyway, you know, would never not think of what they wouldn't want to do, but if it was really pushing on my wellbeing, no, I wouldn't do it.

I'd find a way around it. So that it's. So is it at all? suited everyone

Damaged Parents: [00:18:37] It sounds like that would be hard to, as a, as a type. It sounds like type a personality. Go get her

to, to even try to slow down would be difficult. And I'm wondering what the self-talk was like when you were in those places.

Gennye Lion: [00:18:56] it was almost like they, I remember one moment I stood in the kitchen and. So we live in the UK. And so I've looked out the kitchen, I've got the garden as I look on this, like washing the washes, like the car. And I also, like, it felt like, I don't know if I can say, I don't know if I can be here anymore. It was almost like this self-talk was almost not, I wouldn't have, I would not do a suicide, but it was like, the thoughts were like, can I complete this, you know, this feels too much for me.

And that was not, that's not healthy. So I told my husband, I said, I don't want you to worry. I would never do myself in, but that is not my normal thought process at all. It's the other way around, how can we fix everything? How can we make everything better?  So then he was like, okay, what else do you need?

 I need to clean up twice a week, like, cause. We'll do we'll do your own denomination, have the team. And maybe once a week over two weeks, I couldn't even take the bins out. So I was like, the cleaner needs to come twice a week and do the washing and help me with that as well.

It seems like. Yeah, no problem. And then instead of just need to know that I don't have to do a lot of things because I'm breaking down. So he was like, okay. So, yeah, so then we just had to help and we could have the help, which was a good thing. My mother had all helped me, but yeah, the thought process.

And  then I felt talking about it now. I haven't talked about it. It made me feel like I was broken.

Damaged Parents: [00:20:21] So you wondered if you could even possibly repair or come back from this?

Gennye Lion: [00:20:25] Yeah.

Damaged Parents: [00:20:26] That would be a little scary.

Gennye Lion: [00:20:27] I've never had that before and I've never had it after and I hope I'll never get it again. So I did repair. I'm fine now, but yeah, that was the thought process. Thinking about it, probably it didn't go on for that long. It was probably only a couple of months where it was really bad. And then as soon as I had this process with my mentor, things just shifted dramatically.

And then I was like, okay, now I can do my self-care more motivated. It's even easier to do it. I can drop the cleaner into once a week because I feel better about doing stuff around the house. You know what I mean? So it got better.

Damaged Parents: [00:21:02] what types of things did the healer help on? Were they, or the coach or the mentor however you want to label  that. what types of thought processes or what types of tools did they give you to help you shift?

Gennye Lion: [00:21:15] Okay. So I'm aware she was doing, divine healing on me, which is what I do as well. So that is working very much about the emotions, any trauma that you've gone through to take out the infant of the trauma out of the cells. So we did all that work around the dramatic birth. But this thing, this whole thing where I felt the film was in the dark night of soul.

That's a specific process. Where you have to bring the soul back into the body properly. So that you're really grounded. And I can tell you now there's so many people, even people, I don't know are spiritual, there's so many people that are not fully in their bodies because they've had trauma. There is that disassociation in psychology, and they're basically not fully in their body.

So they don't kind of want to be there because it's been so traumatic. So she is bringing the soul energy back into the body and that's what she was doing to me fully , cause when she was working with me, she felt like I was hovering over my own body. So she was like, right, we've got to get you back in that.

And that feeling, if you're not feeling like you're in your body properly, it makes you feel like you're not really, there, it's weird. So soon as she brought me back in properly, I was like, okay. I feel much better. Right. Okay. Yeah, it's good. We can do things. I feel connected to things that I need to do and motivated to do them.

So the way that works, I can't really explain how it works. I do it with other people and you're just literally, you're just connecting with it and you pull it back into the body. So it's energy block, really?

Damaged Parents: [00:22:50] So what would people notice. With the dissociation that you experienced, what did you notice so that maybe some people can relate and go, Oh, that makes sense. Okay. Now I understand where I'm at.

Gennye Lion: [00:23:03] Yeah. So whoever is listening now, even if you're not spiritual or even if you're don't know about it or whatever, it is like the two different ways of looking at it. So from a psychology doctor, they would say that anyone's gone through a trauma and the trauma was the operation. Cause I was in open operation for like four or five hours, so the body was open for that long , with my consciousness awake.

Which then gave me the trauma. That makes sense. Right? So a trauma specialist or somebody who is a psychologist will understand there's given trauma to the body as if you had a car accident, you have a trauma to the body because you would have the impact. Right? So what happens then from an energy perspective, people feel like  somebody is there, but their lights are not on.

It's like they're there, but they don't feel connected. They just feel like they are removed a little bit from the reality, and that is called disassociation in counseling. And if you have trauma specialist and things like that, but from a healing perspective, what is actually happening is that their soul is lifting out of the body.

So the person's feels removed from reality because it's too painful to be in it. So I don't mean to know how a psychologist and  the general practice, what they do to bring the person back. But in the healing world, we bring the soul back in and the person is better off and we have to heal the trauma.

Of course.

Damaged Parents: [00:24:30] I'm wondering, does it have to be like a physical trauma or can it be an emotional trauma that happens?

Gennye Lion: [00:24:36] Can be an emotional trauma. Like, , for example, if somebody finds out that the husband cheated and they are like hitting your heart, literally from disappointment and hurt, that's a trauma as well. Right. So that could also make the person not want to be there. I would say long-term views.

Like if you had in childhood, something that happened within relationship, but there's, long-term physical, mental, emotional, spiritual abuse. The same thing can happen because this person can start disassociating. And that's what it's called in those times. So I suppose the person would feel detached from reality and to not feel that's the thing to not feel because they don't want to feel cause it's too painful.

Damaged Parents: [00:25:20] So very tired, this idea of being there, but not there. So maybe not fully conscious in their own personal life, if you will.

Gennye Lion: [00:25:30] Yeah. Misaligned, just feeling very, disconnected to themselves,

Damaged Parents: [00:25:35] Maybe off would be a good word. They just feel

Gennye Lion: [00:25:37] Yeah. Off, yeah, just a bit off. And they're not sure how to get themselves back

Damaged Parents: [00:25:42] Yeah, maybe there's no clear answer

Gennye Lion: [00:25:45] Yeah  really hard to know what to do To make a

Damaged Parents: [00:25:47] decision. oh so any decision could be hard

or maybe they just want to avoid decisions at all costs.

Gennye Lion: [00:25:53] Yep. Things like that. Yeah. I'm trying to put it into reality terms. What would happen? What's going on it's that too. Yeah. And they burst out to tears really easily and not linked with their period or their time of the month , just off again off

Damaged Parents: [00:26:08] Or maybe anger and frustration are easier to

Gennye Lion: [00:26:11] Yeah.

Damaged Parents: [00:26:12] get out Okay. Okay. It does, it sounds like a dark night of the soul. I mean, the description matches. It makes sense that someone wouldn't, but. It's not like you want to spend time in that place. It's just, that's where you're at.

And there's no, fix I'm thinking even with the healing you could go and maybe the first time it not really be helpful or is it a process is it a process

Gennye Lion: [00:26:41] You know, I feel like with the healing you'll always feel better, but sometimes it takes time. Let's say the person. So in this case for me, In the beginning, the first couple of healings that was very much about just balancing my hormones, balancing my system, more soothing then like deep work. as we were discovered why it happened, that's where we had to go and do much of the deeper work and rescue the soul parts and bring them back in and do this.

You know, what I explained, But yeah. I have a friend who had a dark night of the soul and he simply couldn't see what the point was to be here anymore. And he is a very powerful leader of alternative, knowledge. And he is also healer and, a mentor. But yeah, he had that as well.

And when we talked about it, not so long ago, it's very, very similar for a man. I mean, he felt like there was nothing here for him to do. He felt he didn't feel good about himself in any way. Like he was a bad person, you know, so it's all very very depressive thoughts

Damaged Parents: [00:27:49] He was a healer and alternative things like that. So I'm thinking he knew what a dark night of the soul was. Knowing what it was? Was that helpful for him?

Gennye Lion: [00:27:58] No, it's not, this is the thing. Right? So even if we can name it and we understand what's happening, that was probably the most frustrating thing, because although I could understand it and name it, I couldn't shift it quick enough, how it, cause you don't want it to stay in that space. Right. But I had to just ride it out.

Damaged Parents: [00:28:16] Okay.

Gennye Lion: [00:28:17] the most frustrating thing. So I couldn't shift quick enough that I, how I wanted to be. It was comforting in a way that I thought, well, no, it will be okay. Especially after that session where I felt a lot better, then I didn't feel anymore like it wasn't going to be okay. Yeah. But it took another six months to back properly.

Damaged Parents: [00:28:37] So it's really helpful Although, knowing about it doesn't make experiencing it  any easier.

Gennye Lion: [00:28:42] No, it doesn't. You think that wouldn't you, but logic doesn't come in.

Damaged Parents: [00:28:46] well I think that's really fascinating and important

to talk about because

I can have a logical understanding, like you were saying, you can have a logical understanding and you had to still go through it. There was no fast answer or easy answer  and it doesn't sound like it was fun.

mean,

Gennye Lion: [00:29:09] it was terrible. Terrible. riffing.

Damaged Parents: [00:29:13] And so getting to that point, Of just accepting it when you able to accept, okay, this is where I'm at,  because my first thought is just that there was probably a lot of that negative self-talk and I should be able to fix this. Especially once you knew about it.

Gennye Lion: [00:29:29] Yeah.

Damaged Parents: [00:29:30] Okay. so how did you shift that? Because I'm thinking that was part of the healing process is to not be so mean to yourself about

going through it.

Gennye Lion: [00:29:40] Yeah. So I was being very honest with my people around me. Not that my husband would say at the time, but it would have been other times he would have said, well, you shouldn't feel or be, or behave like that because of what you do. So I made it really clear to him. And other people around me that just because I am a healer and because I have a background in psychology and counseling and all the other things, like this, it makes no difference.

Like it really does not. I have a technical understanding and I've taken a lot of people through this process myself, but it doesn't stop how I'm feeling. So I made that really clear. So I don't want to hear about what I know about this, because I know what I know about this. So I, was very strong with boundaries there.

So then no one was saying things like, you know about the work. you should do how to do this because that would be the most awful thing somebody could ever say. It's like saying to a psychologist, well, you shouldn't have psychology problems. Your psychologist. Well, we can't say that.

Damaged Parents: [00:30:44] Yeah. Well, and you were probably thinking that in your mind already, maybe

Gennye Lion: [00:30:48] Yes I was already thinking I need to fix this, but then I had to surrender to just go, well, I don't have all the answers I can't do it on my own. I need help, from these other people, which is very humbling. And I was okay with that. Actually I was okay to take the help at that point.

Yeah. So there was no other way really. But yeah, so very humbling experience.

Damaged Parents: [00:31:09] You added because there was no other way really.

Gennye Lion: [00:31:12] Yeah, because there was no other way. Really? Exactly.

Damaged Parents: [00:31:15] You know, so someone with your background and your knowledge and clearly understanding from a logical perspective, it's still  taking the journey

Gennye Lion: [00:31:24] yeah. And the human experience. In the beginning of this talk we've done today you mentioned about, the leaders and vulnerability and things like that and how they are seen and, maybe are perceived. And there was one thing I thought it was about accepting ourselves.

For the human experience that we have and not label ourselves that we should be in specific way. Perfect. Or we have to show up in this way always. And we have to always be on top because then that's actually not true. Anyway. Instead just saying to ourselves, well, I'm having human experience just like you.

And just because I have knowledge of these things, it doesn't mean I am immune to the human experience. do you know what I mean?

Damaged Parents: [00:32:09] I do.

Gennye Lion: [00:32:09] it's really important.

Damaged Parents: [00:32:11] and that's actually one of the, purposes that this podcast is for is to really show that, doesn't matter if you have disabilities. It doesn't matter if you've struggled with emotions or intellectual issues or you're a CEO or the color of your skin or the color of your eyes, it doesn't matter.

We're all here for the human experience.  And I'm even coming to the conclusion that we're here for the experience that we are here for, and that may or may not have anything to do with. Being successful. And sometimes it's just luck. And sometimes that's because that's what the journey we need to take for our human experience.

Does that make sense? And some of us have to, maybe whatever reason, ours is harder in a different way. And I'm saying that because. I really do think it's just different. So maybe part of one person's struggle is living paycheck to paycheck. And then part of another person's struggle is managing a company and feeling like they're responsible for all these other people's lives,

or

I'm just kind of trying to throw out some ideas.

Does that, I mean,

Gennye Lion: [00:33:26] Absolutely. Whatever our calling is. So, I mean, I can say that  be part of your calling is probably to share all these wonderful information, have these nice podcasts and helping people. Right. And my calling is to help other people heal and really embody their fullest potential and things like this.

But we all, as you just said, there, we all have the human experience where I believe we're faced with the most difficult things so that we can have come and become. The best version of ourselves. And instead of looking at it as a, I had bad luck or,  my life's bad, or what am I learning here?

What is it I need to learn? You know, what is it I need to learn this experience, whether that was from going from paycheck to paycheck. And increase their self-worth and go and educate themselves maybe, and get another better job or start their own business. Maybe that was the journey or the CEO saying, I feel overwhelmed and burnt out and taken to responsibility by other people.

I need to learn boundaries and really allow and delegate and trust my team more. And for me, it was very, very much about the self-love, the boundaries, loving myself enough to put myself first so that I can serve my family and my clients, because otherwise I couldn't serve anyone.

So

that was the biggest thing. And slowing down and saying yes, actually, receive from kind people who wanted to help. Which I think is a big thing for women. Sometimes they don't take the help. Right? So whatever the journey and allowing to learn from it to become your better self, you are then aligning more with your highest potential, really.

Because you're working through that. So instead of saying, it's so bad, .Okay. Well, what can I learn from you as well? Am I learning here? What is it? What can I improve? I have the power to change this. How can I improve this? How can I make this better? And that would apply for every single human's life.

Damaged Parents: [00:35:34] It sounds a lot also like what I'm hearing you saying is surrendering to the journey. And not worrying so much about the end goal,

Gennye Lion: [00:35:45] no exactly. Surrendering to what

Damaged Parents: [00:35:48] No matter what, it just, even from what you're saying, you know, you had a dark night of the soul in the early twenties, you had another one and you really hope you don't get to have another one, but you have no control over that.

Gennye Lion: [00:36:01] In disparate. No more universe. No more of those, please.

Damaged Parents: [00:36:04] Again, you don't like, that would be nice. Right. You know, I was just thinking about this the other day, sometimes bad things happen to people and I don't, and sometimes it's multiple bad things. Right. And I don't think they always go looking for them.

They just happen. And I think it's, in some ways it's not healthy for me to even think that people go looking for hard things, because I don't think we do it on purpose. I don't think any human would do that on purpose,

Gennye Lion: [00:36:32] Subconsciously there will be maybe sometimes programs that run into subconscious mind that would ultimately attract that experience. So you kind of responsible, but you don't realize it's running.

If that makes sense. This is particularly with relationships and that you're getting good work and you know, there's lots of other things like that.

That will be subconscious programming, running and things like that. You kind of creating it, but you're not realizing you're creating it until you go. Right? My subconscious mind is running the show. Let's have a little look at this shall we? And that's when we then start doing deep inner work and understanding that you can control a lot by the awakening.

It's asking about by looking at this

Damaged Parents: [00:37:12] And you have to get there though? First?

Gennye Lion: [00:37:14] Yes. So it's almost like, I don't like this reality, I'm in. People say this is not good enough for me. I want to change this. That's when you start thinking isn't it that you need to define some tools. So make a change. Basically, it's our responsibility to figure out what we don't want.

I'm talking right now generally, but what we don't want, that's how we go off what we want. I think. So let's say you end up with some guy before you're married and he's just not the marriage material or something. And you just think do you know what? I do not want a guy who is like ABC, so then you go, Hmm.

Is that who do I want then? Okay. So yeah, it how you work it out isn't it? it's how you work it out.

Damaged Parents: [00:37:53] Okay. Yeah. So it sounds like what you're saying is a lot, like my whitewater rafting perspective, if I look at the rock, I'm going to hit the rock. So if I only focus on what I don't want, I'm going to hit that.

And because you shift it, you said, well, what do I do want? So then I have to look at the river

and follow the river.

Gennye Lion: [00:38:12] exactly. Oh, I love that. What's that beautiful analogy. I like that.

Damaged Parents: [00:38:17] It was really neat to watch you go through that thought process. And I highly respect that. I really have enjoyed our conversation today.

Gennye Lion: [00:38:26] yeah, thank you, me too.

Damaged Parents: [00:38:28] Three things that people can walk away with tips or tools that we may or may not have already talked about.

Gennye Lion: [00:38:34] Oh, yeah. Okay. So I really would like, I mean, this is just not for the sake of getting into my community, but I do on my website. This is very powerful energy clearing and meditation. So if you, if people wanted to get into the energy work and clear their mind and ground themselves and be in their bodies, you know, these things and feel really a lot of clarity and excitement and happiness, really, because it clears a lot of things out of the mind and the energy field.

You can get it on my website. So it's gennyelion.love and if you sign up for the bioenergy theory, it is a wonderful, wonderful process that people use over and over and over. It's obviously free. And it's amazing. I'm not saying because I've created it really truly is amazing. I get messages all the time about this one.

So that will be good. That if you want to try something on that. The other thing I will just say, look, if parents and women in particular, maybe are listening to this and see, feel the overwhelm and feel the, burnout, these things, I would just say, so you have to schedule self-care. It's like the most important thing.

You'd just have to get some time for yourself. And even if that's hard in the beginning, just take some steps, work towards this and becomes easier after a while. it's most important thing. Self-care

Damaged Parents: [00:39:53] Did you have one more thing you wanted to give us or.

Gennye Lion: [00:39:56] If you went to go to the website, there's also energy hygiene kit in there, which is also including any high Chakra limitation and. A really beautiful grid. It's a grid spinning energetic thing, spinning around aura to just spin out sort of negativity and thoughts and things that don't belong to you as well.

So I think that's plenty that I think that's plenty.

Damaged Parents: [00:40:18] That is, that is plenty you mean you had an extra one in there we didn't know about, but you knew about

that's fantastic.

And we'll link that  in the show notes and everything. We'll be linking your website, and all of your groups and

Gennye Lion: [00:40:32] Yeah. I mean, you've got the Facebook group and I have a Facebook page, but it's all Gennye Lion. G E N N Y E L I O N. So if you went on Google to look for me, it would be Facebook, Instagram, my website and everything. So I'm not hiding.

Damaged Parents: [00:40:50] No, you're not. We've got your back.

Gennye Lion: [00:40:54] Yeah.

Damaged Parents: [00:40:54] Thank you so much, Gennye I loved having you today.

Gennye Lion: [00:40:58] Aw thank you so much for having me. It was really nice to talk to you.

Damaged Parents: [00:41:01] Thank you for listening to this week's episode of Relatively Damaged by Damaged Parents. We've really enjoyed talking to Jenny about how she recovered from adrenal burnout in a dark night of the soul.

We especially liked when she explained, sometimes you just have to take it a little bit slower and allow yourself room to heal. To unite with other damaged people, connect with us on Facebook. Look for damaged parents. We'll be here next week still relatively damaged see you then