S3E13: How to Exceed Your Potential
Anna Stephanie has more than 15 years of global corporate experience and in the path of personal growth. She has helped more than 1,500 people and almost 20 companies to radically change their lives, allowing them to live fully, away from the negative effects of stress.
She has also been part of business teams and has exercised the leadership function acting only as a boss, because her style was aggressive and not very empathic, so she knows what it takes to awaken the conscious leader within.
She has the most effective tools for you to see tangible changes in a short time.
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XTP Website: https://excedetupotencial.com/
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LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/ejecutivecoachguatemala
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Podcast Transcript
[00:00:00] Damaged Parents: Welcome back to Relatively Damaged by Damaged Parents. Today we have a fantastic guest, Anna Stephanie, and she has more than 15 years of global corporate experience and is on the path of personal growth. Well, no, she's not well, she. Well, hold on. You know what, I'm gonna say that again. She has 15 years of global corporate experience
[00:00:21] Damaged Parents: and 15 years of experience in the path of personal growth. That's important to differentiate, not on the path, but in the path helping herself and helping other people. She's helped more than 1500 people and almost 20 companies radically change their lives, allowing them to live fully away from the negative effects of stress.
[00:00:42] Damaged Parents: She has also been a part of business teams. Now, this I think, is in her past life because she said in her bio that she was in the boss role because she calls it the boss role because she was aggressive and not empathetic at all, . So now she knows because she's been there, she knows the difference between being the master of a boss, you.
[00:01:07] Damaged Parents: Playing the master role of a boss to really empathically working with your clients and with your staff to really awaken the conscious leader within.
[00:01:17] Damaged Parents: So Anna, Stephanie, thank you so much for coming on the show.
[00:01:22] Anna Stephanie: Thank you, Angela. It's a pleasure and an honor to be here with your audience and having this amazing conversation today.
[00:01:29] Anna Stephanie: So thank you for the invitation.
[00:01:31] Damaged Parents: Oh yeah, for sure. Definitely. You guys, if you could see Anna Stephanie, every time I've chatted with her has this great big smile and it's like you can feel her heart coming through the screen because we've only, we live so far away from each other, And that's so important I think just in dealing with people.
[00:01:47] Damaged Parents: But before we move on, and we'll remember, hopefully to mention it at the end. Mm-hmm. , most of her stuff, the websites and things all down in the show notes. Mm-hmm. are in Spanish. Mm-hmm. . That's right. If you, if you don't speak Spanish, that's okay. Google Translate does, and I think on Facebook, I know Facebook posts, uh, when some of my friends in other countries, I can just click.
[00:02:11] Damaged Parents: See translation. Exactly. So, so I love that this is kind of becoming a world, it's a world, uh, a one world, I guess .
[00:02:21] Anna Stephanie: Yeah. Like connected. Like it doesn't matter if you don't speak the language, there's always a way we can find a way to always translate everything. So,
[00:02:29] Damaged Parents: yeah. Yeah. Now we did decide that Google Translate would not be beautifully translated, but it certainly would get the point across.
[00:02:36] Damaged Parents: I mean, it was really funny because, let's see, we scheduled an appointment. Through you first. Uh, I went to your Calendly and, and on there it was all Spanish. And I don't know why my phone wasn't translating it, but I just went, oh, well I'll figure it out. You know, and it worked.
[00:02:56] Anna Stephanie: yeah, like the intuitive part, you know, that those that are, I think that's amazing right now with technology that everything is so intuitive, so it doesn't matter sometimes the language, obviously, if it's something that, you know, if it's Chinese or Russian, that's too complicated for us, but you know, like all the languages that come from the Latin root, then it's a bit easier. Yeah, I believe.
[00:03:17] Damaged Parents: Yeah. Or like Thai, some of the languages that they write it the other way and it looks very beautiful to me.
[00:03:24] Damaged Parents: It looks very beautiful, but I have no idea. I couldn't even guess you. Exactly. You know, which is where I'm grateful for Google Translate.
[00:03:32] Anna Stephanie: Me too.
[00:03:34] Damaged Parents: But that is, we're not here to talk about translating .
[00:03:37] Anna Stephanie: No, exactly.
[00:03:39] Damaged Parents: Unless it's transitioning. Well, translating your company from maybe not being empathetic to being empathetic, you know, like Yeah.
[00:03:47] Damaged Parents: That would be more of a transition versus a translate a thing, but maybe. Maybe in some ways it would be a translate because maybe someone doesn't know how to have or build an empathic business model. Mm-hmm. , because even me as an individual, I have caregivers and things like that, and sometimes when they're just not capable in that moment of doing the job for whatever reason.
[00:04:17] Damaged Parents: I've gotta take a look at me because I, go back to those old, um, what's the word I'm looking for?
[00:04:25] Anna Stephanie: Patterns.
[00:04:26] Damaged Parents: Yeah. The old patterns of you have to do it and you have to, you know, that forcing the solution type thing. Oh no, this has to be done right now, but I don't think that's true anymore. It doesn't have to be done right this second.
[00:04:40] Damaged Parents: In fact, it might be better not done right this second because then I'm putting all this negative energy into it.
[00:04:46] Anna Stephanie: Exactly, because you're not coming from a
[00:04:48] Anna Stephanie: ba place of peace, but you're coming from a place of stress or anxiety or something that needs to happen right now, or your mind is like, doesn't let you kind of like really understand what's going on, if it's really what will give you peace of mind or even that will help you actually maybe that moment it's not the right.
[00:05:12] Damaged Parents: Yeah. So how do companies, I mean, usually there are these goals and you know, you've got these goals and, and these things you wanna hit and all of this, and then you're managing a team and, and you've got, let's say, one or two people on your team that don't wanna work. I mean, how does a company, if they're, if they're looking like they're not gonna hit that goal, how do they step back and be like, okay, it's gonna be okay.
[00:05:37] Damaged Parents: You know, do they rethink what. , what would someone do in that situ? ,
[00:05:44] Anna Stephanie: you know, in, in my experience, I think the involvement of the whole team is key because you know, more heads think better than one, and sometimes you, as the way you see life and as the way you resolve issues, you don't have the answer. And sometimes the whole team doesn't have the answer, but at least you start doing a brainstorm and you start involving them.
[00:06:07] Anna Stephanie: So people really become part of the, the whole thing and responsible and accountable for what's going on. Even, you know, for example, if I'm not in sales and people that sell the product or the service are the ones in charge of bringing the income. I'm probably in an assistant role or in a logistics role or something else anyway.
[00:06:29] Anna Stephanie: I mean, my salary will depend upon those sales. So how can I help them from my viewpoint of the situation? Mm-hmm. Okay. Maybe I can help, like, uh, I know people so I can, uh, give you the context of those people and then the salespeople go to see them or maybe, you know, and start thinking outside the box. Or maybe we can do something funny or different that we never done before, and you just bring the idea and people analyze it.
[00:07:00] Anna Stephanie: Actually, it makes sense and if the time, if we have time constraints or if the time allows it to actually implement it and see what happens. But what I believe is the key thing here is to involve the whole team so they all become part of it and they feel. Accountable to make the company much better and improve and, and not thinking of if, if, you know, that's normally what happens.
[00:07:29] Anna Stephanie: If we don't hit the the numbers, then probably they will fire me. So there we act from a place of fear instead of, okay, how my involvement will help continue growing the company and reaching the sales because at the end you're part of it but you need to become part of it. I always, I don't know if you've heard the story of them, of the constructors.
[00:07:54] Anna Stephanie: There were
[00:07:54] Anna Stephanie: two constructors. Have you heard that story before?
[00:07:57] Damaged Parents: No. Let's tell it . Yeah. I love parables .
[00:08:01] Anna Stephanie: This is amazing. I always said, talk about this with my clients, and it's about, you know, how you identify with your company, how you really, you know, Really we in Spanish, say you put the t-shirt on from the company.
[00:08:14] Anna Stephanie: Like you really are part of it, like it's your family, so to say. So what happened here is there were two construction guys and um, they ask, they, they would ask them what do they do for a living? So, The first guy comes and he says, you know, I ha I'm, I'm, you know, put the concrete and I put this, and then we do this and you know, like we start building and then we put the floors, and then we put the windows and Yeah.
[00:08:44] Anna Stephanie: And then we build the building. Oh, okay. That's what you do for living? Yes, that's what I do for living. Okay. So they go to the other guy and like, oh, can you tell us what you are doing for living? Oh, yes. I'm helping to build the tallest building in the whole world. So imagine if all the people in your company are saying, About their involvement and about their goal and their place in the company.
[00:09:17] Anna Stephanie: I mean, how would that change the company environment? .
[00:09:21] Damaged Parents: Yeah. Because now they're part of the team. It's not just the salesperson, it's not just the owner. It's not just, it doesn't depend on any one person. It's kind of interesting now that I'm thinking about it, that we're having this conversation because just, uh, we, we took my, my daughter to school, and even on the way back I was talking about how we're not alone.
[00:09:45] Damaged Parents: And I think that like the first, the first constructor talking about the tasks that need to be done implying like it's very just ta task based and that he ne he is doing that versus all of them. Not, not even we, I do this or I do that and. We're in the car, and I'm like, you know, I really have to remember that I'm never alone and I pointed to the car, I'm like, I didn't make this car. Many people made this car.
[00:10:17] Anna Stephanie: Exactly.
[00:10:18] Damaged Parents: And that means I'm not alone. And I'm, because I'm thinking as I, as I continue into that mindset, as I, and remember that it's not just me, that it's a much safer. Mm-hmm. and more welcoming way to live because it's okay then if I have faults. Yeah. Or I fail at something. Yeah, because then I can go ask for help or go ask for opinions or go ask for whatever.
[00:10:49] Damaged Parents: And you were saying even about like the administrative person and the sales staff? Mm-hmm. and how maybe they would recommend calling someone that they hadn't thought about, that the salesperson hadn't thought about or doing something surprising that the salesperson hadn't thought about. And I, you know, I think that's fantastic and that's kind of been even my story with disability, right?
[00:11:19] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm. that when, when we open up the doors to possibility that someone with a disability might see is going to see it very different than someone. Without a disability. So we're kind of talking. That's amazing that we're really talking about the same type of, we're spreading the same message. .
[00:11:39] Anna Stephanie: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:11:40] Anna Stephanie: Because at the end, you know, it's like you cannot, I mean, one of the things that I teach is how you, you, we all have, you know, like strengths and you know, things to improve or blind spots, so to say. But you know, if you have someone or you have a team that their strength. Is my blind spot. Imagine that. And that I accept, okay, my blind spot is this.
[00:12:06] Anna Stephanie: You know, like I'm focusing processes and nodding people. My blind spot is not focusing on people, but for example, we work together and your strength is focusing on people. Imagine how amazing we could work together, because I would focus on the process and I will tell you, no, we need to do this in the whole process.
[00:12:23] Anna Stephanie: And you're like, okay, but we have to take into account the people. So how do we do this happy medium that everyone wins, the process runs smoothly and the people are happy and are not feeling that your machine's doing the process, you
[00:12:37] Anna Stephanie: know?
[00:12:38] Damaged Parents: Yeah. That's not a fun place to be as a machine. During the process, I, when you were talking about sharing, that, uh, the responsibility and things like that.
[00:12:47] Damaged Parents: It made me think also of what I talk to tell new caregivers when they come to my home mm-hmm. about driving and that I'm not a backseat driver. I am your co-pilot.
[00:13:00] Anna Stephanie: Exactly.
[00:13:01] Damaged Parents: It because the co-pilot, like you're, you're talking about, is going to see something different than the other person.
[00:13:07] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm.
[00:13:08] Damaged Parents: sometimes.
[00:13:08] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. .
[00:13:09] Damaged Parents: So when I say I see something, If they didn't see it, they're grateful If they did see it. Oh yeah, I saw that you. But sometimes we don't, like you're saying, we don't see our own blind spots. And in fact, I think when we're thinking individually
[00:13:25] Anna Stephanie: mm-hmm.
[00:13:26] Damaged Parents: um, If we have a blind spot spot and we see it as a fault, then exactly, because someone else points it out.
[00:13:34] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm. ,
[00:13:34] Damaged Parents: like how do, how do you help people transition from that individual? Independent? I have to do it on my own into that team. And is that a tough transition? .
[00:13:47] Anna Stephanie: I think it depends. And, and, and here goes the other topic that I work with people and it's the mindset, you know, because we have our saboteur that is telling us all the time, like, you need to do this.
[00:13:59] Anna Stephanie: You, you are stupid. You are here, you're there. But at the same time, if you accept like, okay, I can't do this on my own, I need help and it happens in everything in our lives. And you know, I always say this about coaching, like when you are in, you know, a very deep hole because something happened to you, it's not true that you're coming out by yourself.
[00:14:25] Anna Stephanie: You need help. I mean, you could, but it would take you ages because what happens, and what I, I always tell is that, Imagine that you, you, because of your beliefs and your paradigms and the way you have experienced life, you went into this, what I call a mental jail because everything is in your mind. I mean, you do all these stories in your head, like, uh, you with all your beliefs and all that.
[00:14:49] Anna Stephanie: You, you went into that jail. So imagine how will you go out, because what you start doing is doing these things that you know, And with the things that you know or you think help you are the ones that got you in there . So in order to go outta it, you need to do things differently,
[00:15:10] Damaged Parents: which is scary.
[00:15:12] Anna Stephanie: It is scary and it's not only scary, but you don't really know where to start.
[00:15:17] Anna Stephanie: You know? You don't know where to start because you are you, you are. It's like when people tell me, no, I've done everything and I'm still not able to control my mind. Let's say an example. Like if you've done everything you would, you would already control your mind . So you haven't done everything. You've done many things that didn't work out, but that doesn't mean there is no way to do it.
[00:15:44] Anna Stephanie: There's different ways. Mm. But you need to be open to experience something different. And you know what all my mentors and my coaches tell me, and I've seen it and, you know, all, all these, you know, famous people say, it's like if you are at the, you know, uh, uh, at that level, let's say, I will put it like really easily, like talking about sales.
[00:16:05] Anna Stephanie: I think with numbers it's, it's easier to relate. Imagine that you sell, I don't know, $10,000 a month and, and it's okay, but you wanna go to a next level that would be probably $20,000 a month doing the same thing you are doing right now, won't get you to 20,000. Mm-hmm. , you have to change your, uh, your strategy and you have to become a different person.
[00:16:29] Anna Stephanie: Maybe for 20,000 you need a team. And currently it's just you. Maybe, maybe for 20,000 you need to develop leadership skills because currently you don't have anybody that reports to you, so you, you would, you wouldn't be the same person. So in the same happened in every path of our lives, you know, for example, If you change, you know, your body situation change, and now you cannot do things by yourself the way you used to.
[00:17:00] Anna Stephanie: You need to become a different person. But the first thing is to accept that you cannot do it alone. But that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. And I don't know. Our cultures in the West have believed that if you ask for help, you are weak , and that's not true.
[00:17:16] Damaged Parents: Yeah. I, I personally, I had that struggle as I had to have caregivers because it was a, had to have, you know, and then, and then there was the, the fight that I had to go through to get it.
[00:17:29] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm.
[00:17:30] Damaged Parents: I can tell you though, learning that I'm not alone and learning that they see things that I don't see and vice versa has been. Hugely transformational for me and what an eye opener that it is. . We are not alone. It's just we have this belief that we do all these things alone. I especially, I feel like in America, um
[00:18:01] Anna Stephanie: mm-hmm.
[00:18:01] Damaged Parents: now, it's been many years since I was in the corporate world, but kind of looking at the news here and there and things like that, it still feels like there's still this narrative that says, you know, you're alone. Even though it's more about resilience, you know, like they're talking about those things a little bit more.
[00:18:20] Damaged Parents: And, and they do create these working groups, but still, there's the, the belief inside of the working group that uh, if you don't fulfill all of what you're supposed to fulfill, then you failed instead of. And then it can be humiliating depending on the working group to go ask for help. , because it's, and then it's seen as you're not good on o you know, then the, then the narrative comes in, oh, you're not good enough.
[00:18:46] Damaged Parents: You're not this, you know, well, no, none of us are. All of everything we can be.
[00:18:51] Anna Stephanie: No, no. And, you know, and that's the fun part about life as well, because if I live in my strength, I fly, but if I'm leaving in my weaknesses, I get stressed out and even get a burnout because that's not my natural thing to do.
[00:19:09] Anna Stephanie: I'm forcing myself. And if you force yourself, you get anxious, you get sick, you get burn out whatever. I mean, but if you live in what you came really here to do, and if it doesn't matter if you don't know, but you know what you love, you know what you're good at, you know, and especially, you know when, when we talk about,
[00:19:28] Anna Stephanie: what do I do with my life? It's like, okay, what are you good at? Solving problems, not only passionate Uhhuh,
[00:19:35] Damaged Parents: what do you. and some people I think don't know and that's okay. It's, it's, I think we also trap children in, into this idea that they're supposed to know, even though we have so many studies that have been done that show , the people that are most successful change their path, uh, if they go to college.
[00:19:54] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm.
[00:19:55] Damaged Parents: they change their degree path multiple times until they find something that they're really enjoy.
[00:20:01] Anna Stephanie: Exactly.
[00:20:02] Damaged Parents: and you know, what about the people who enjoy. I don't know, vocational type work that doesn't require a college degree. You know? Then there's a judgment that it's not good enough and that's not true.
[00:20:13] Damaged Parents: No. You know, I mean, we could actually use a lot more welders in the United States, or handymen or this or that, and they make a decent amount of money.
[00:20:24] Anna Stephanie: They actually better money than a lot of corporate people, you know?
[00:20:29] Damaged Parents: Yeah. Sometimes. Yeah. Yeah. But, . I had a thought when, when you were talking about sometimes we see things that other people don't see and vice versa.
[00:20:39] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm. ,
[00:20:39] Damaged Parents: and it made me think of the x-ray machine.
[00:20:42] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm.
[00:20:43] Damaged Parents: and how, and even like cell phone, um, the, the, the, the waves that cell phones ride on.
[00:20:51] Anna Stephanie: Oh yeah. Uhhuh.
[00:20:52] Damaged Parents: and the different things like that and how we don't, we don't see it. Somebody did. Yeah. Somebody saw. Or thought of it and thought, oh, I'm gonna do something and let me see if this works.
[00:21:04] Anna Stephanie: Exactly.
[00:21:04] Damaged Parents: But we wouldn't have those x-rays today if somebody else wouldn't have said, oh my gosh. You know, there's something there. And then how many times has there been change? Or someone's pointed something new out and everybody goes, you are crazy. Yeah. Like,
[00:21:20] Anna Stephanie: and most of inventions are like that. In, in, I don't know if you know the story of, of Thomas Eddison with, with the lights.
[00:21:27] Damaged Parents: The light bulbs. Yes.
[00:21:28] Anna Stephanie: Yeah. That he did, I don't know, like a thousand different experiments until it'd work if he would believe his demons in his head or the people outside that would tell him, what are you doing? Are you crazy? We would, I don't know how many years would have passed after he died that we would have light, you know, And he was so, you know, he was, he knew that was it for him and
[00:21:54] Anna Stephanie: he continued.
[00:21:55] Damaged Parents: Yeah. Like that was his calling.
[00:21:56] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm. .
[00:21:57] Damaged Parents: Yeah. And, and I think sometimes there's a calling that we're not really sure of. What is it
[00:22:04] Anna Stephanie: Yeah.
[00:22:05] Damaged Parents: That, that you're supposed to do. And then if, so, if someone comes to you and they're confused, what are some things they might do to try and figure it out?
[00:22:16] Anna Stephanie: You know, I think the first step to, to do that, and that's something that I work with my clients, is to understand where they are at.
[00:22:25] Anna Stephanie: Because, you know, , it's fair and it happens that your goals when you're 20 are not the same, that when you are 30. And what you're passionate about in your twenties might change in your forties or even again in your fifties. And people tend to think, oh no, I'm too old, or I'm too young, or to do something different.
[00:22:47] Anna Stephanie: And there's always the perfect time to start something new. It's today. And the second perfect time is tomorrow. So it doesn't matter. And I think at the end it's, you know, how you constrain your mind and how, you know your demons start talking to you about stupid things, and that's when you don't trust yourself or you're, you doubt about what you can do or not do, and, and that's what you need.
[00:23:12] Anna Stephanie: I, I believe that's what we need to be working on all the time because it's a training, you know, it's like going to the gym. All the mindset thing. We need to train our mind every day for the rest of our. So the mind does what we want. Not that the, the mind controls us, otherwise. The mind controls everything and the mind is, the task of the mind is survival.
[00:23:34] Anna Stephanie: So watch out. This can happen. But other than that, it's not the mind's work taking decisions. You, we need to feel that it's the right decision. We need to feel peace. We, we don't, I mean, if we are in our head, it. I, I don't know, in, in being in your head feels peacefully. Only if you meditate.
[00:24:00] Damaged Parents: And then if you're in a bad mindset, it's not helpful, right?
[00:24:03] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm. ,
[00:24:03] Damaged Parents: because then you're just digging a deeper hole.
[00:24:05] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm.
[00:24:05] Damaged Parents: and I'm thinking of. You know, you were talking about how somebody in their thirties or forties or fifties, it might be time to do something new, which, yeah. Which popped me into the knowledge or, or remembering reading a statistic somewhere that a lot of people in those later ages will commit suicide usually after a big event.
[00:24:24] Damaged Parents: That as maybe it scared them, maybe they don't know how they're gonna move forward.
[00:24:28] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm.
[00:24:29] Damaged Parents: you know, and, and that is, So important to, I think, realize and remember that we do have the choice that when we're listening to those voices, maybe, maybe those negative voices aren't as true as we think they are.
[00:24:46] Damaged Parents: They feel true, they feel, and if we've had history of trauma or whatever, and we're used to living in those feelings and then something ha things are going good, and then all of a sudden we find ourselves back there, I think.
[00:24:57] Anna Stephanie: Mm-hmm.
[00:24:57] Damaged Parents: That then it's like, oh, I'm here. Oh, I don't wanna do life anymore because this is
[00:25:01] Anna Stephanie: mm-hmm.
[00:25:01] Damaged Parents: it's just
[00:25:01] Anna Stephanie: mm-hmm.
[00:25:02] Damaged Parents: I'm just gonna keep coming back, or, you know, I'm trying to think of, uh, what would happen in someone's mind before
[00:25:07] Anna Stephanie: Yeah,
[00:25:07] Damaged Parents: before they, they might do that. So what you're saying I think is. Remember to exercise the mind.
[00:25:15] Anna Stephanie: Yeah. All the time. You know, it's like going to the gym every day, all ti all the time.
[00:25:20] Anna Stephanie: So you control your mind and you tell your mind what to, take from it. You know? It will say, you know, be aware of the dog. Okay. Okay. I will not walk on that side of the road because there's a dog. I'm, I'm paying attention to what you're saying. Beware of not starting something new. Why? I mean, I want, I, I need to start something new.
[00:25:41] Anna Stephanie: I, I resigned to my job and. I don't want to do that anymore, and I want to do something new. So I'm not listening here to you because I truly am looking for a new thing. And at the beginning, it's okay if we don't know what to do. And you know, actually life is about cycles. I mean, some cycles you will know what you want and some you will not.
[00:26:01] Anna Stephanie: And others take sometimes longer to define what you want. And it's okay because that's the adventure, to go on the path and discover. What makes you tick? What? How you can help the, your family, the humanity, or whatever your, I don't know, your motivation is. I remember, you know, I used to work in corporate and my last job in corporate was at ExxonMobil.
[00:26:25] Anna Stephanie: And when I started, I remember we had, you know, training on site at the service stations and, you know, hearing Guatemala. Uh, because in the US uh, the, the gas pumps are self-service, but here you have self-service and a guide that helps you so, You audience is a little bit more expensive because that's the way you pay the for, for their salary.
[00:26:48] Anna Stephanie: But this guy I met when I was doing my training on site, he's like, you know, I am in my dream job. I always wanted to work at a gas station and be the guy that would put the gas in your car. And I was like, you know, imagine coming back from the master's degree and like all this business , you know, mindset.
[00:27:10] Anna Stephanie: Like you want, I wanna be successful, I wanna be a leader. I want, you know, like all. And I was like, you know, it was the best experience in my life because that humble experience really got me in. Wow, he's living his life purpose. I am not living my life purpose.
[00:27:30] Damaged Parents: Yeah. Oh gosh. I love that story. It just reminds me of one of my sisters who works with emotionally disturbed children and she does not make a lot of money.
[00:27:40] Damaged Parents: But she makes such a huge difference in these kids' lives and the ones that succeed, they, they remember her and they find her and they tell her like, the value there. I, I really don't think we pay our teachers enough, uh, out here
[00:27:58] Anna Stephanie: no.
[00:27:59] Damaged Parents: For, for what they do. yet on some level they get paid in in those relationships and it is a really, really hard job,
[00:28:09] Anna Stephanie: It is. And a lot of responsibility because you're educating people, you know, you're educating the next generation of your country, you know?
[00:28:18] Damaged Parents: Well, not only that, but could you imagine working with emotionally disturbed kids and then teaching them how to regulate themselves and, and then watching. Graduate from college or getting, getting messages about stuff like that where they're able to fulfill their dreams because they had someone in their life that loved them enough to, to show them and to share tools with them.
[00:28:43] Damaged Parents: And it seems to me like you're one of those people. You can, that's what you do. You take, yeah. The people who are struggling, who are saying, yeah, I wanna do this. Help them find that path. It's just a little bit later than my sister .
[00:28:59] Anna Stephanie: Yeah. I don't work with children, but yeah, it's, it's the next phase of your life,
[00:29:03] Damaged Parents: Yeah. Well, cause sometimes I think that, Well, you know, we don't learn things when some kids are lucky enough to get that, that information and that knowledge when they're younger and then they find their purpose, and then again, like you said, sometimes later, then they wanna to find they, they need to find a new purpose, but that doesn't stop that dysregulation from happening and then needing to find that balance again.
[00:29:27] Anna Stephanie: Exactly, and it's part of it. I mean, it's the same, you know, as being in, in level one and wanting to go to level two. Sometimes it's because you have a, a really awful situation in your life that you need to go to a different level, and sometimes it's because you are in a good level, but want to go to a better level.
[00:29:45] Anna Stephanie: Yeah. So either way you need to change, you need to focus on different things. You need to do things differently. You need to work on your emotions, on your mindset, on getting to know you better because probably, um, you know, uh, midlife crisis and crisis that you have during your life is what I used to like until now is not what I like.
[00:30:07] Anna Stephanie: I used to love my job, but now maybe I'm not. I don't like it anymore, so, okay. So let's find something that you like in this phase of your life. Yeah. Because you've changed and we continue changing. I mean, today we are not the same people that we were yesterday, and it's just one day.
[00:30:25] Damaged Parents: I know, right. And yeah, you reminded me of, of this one caregiver that, that this one company sent me, this gal, I think she was in her seventies.
[00:30:34] Damaged Parents: Mm-hmm. . And, , she used a cane. Mm-hmm. , mind you, my hands don't work the way most people do. And, and I would walk slower and I thought, okay, I better not go on a walk today, cuz that would just not be good, you know, cuz she couldn't do everything that I needed her to do. And I really didn't wanna create more of a problem.
[00:30:51] Damaged Parents: But in the midst of getting to know who she was, she was 70, 70 and still learning and growing. And I thought, you know what, this lady, if she can continue to learn and grow, I can too.
[00:31:07] Anna Stephanie: there was a known speaker, I don't remember his name. He was the mentor of a speaker I heard, and he used to tell this story.
[00:31:13] Anna Stephanie: He was a Latin American, very famous speaker. He on at 90, he was still going on stage and the, the way he started his speeches was, guys, I wanna tell you what my plans are for the next coming 10 years of. Imagine people, what, 10 years you're 90. I mean, what are you talking about? And he always had a, you know, like a goal in his life and that, I don't know how many years he lived, probably 98 or something, but he always had something to look for, you know, in his life.
[00:31:47] Anna Stephanie: Yeah. Didn't matter what age he was.
[00:31:51] Damaged Parents: Fantastic. I'm loving our conversation, but we are like out of time .
[00:31:57] Anna Stephanie: I know, I know. . I would love to continue
[00:32:00] Damaged Parents: too. . I know it's a, we, we talked about this ahead of time. Everybody we knew this would be, yeah, I knew it would be a problem for me. And then she said, yes, it's a problem for me too.
[00:32:11] Damaged Parents: I would talk forever.
[00:32:16] Damaged Parents: So this is one of those. In order to hear more from Anna Stephanie, please go to the show notes, click on the websites, get in touch with her. She has so much knowledge as you can clearly see. We could talk so much longer and you know, it is just been a pleasure having you on the show. I am so grateful.
[00:32:36] Anna Stephanie: Thank you, Angela, for me too. I love our conversation. I hope your audience gets a lot of information here and a lot of tips that they can start doing different in their lives. Because at the end, if you just implement one different thing daily, then your life starts changing.
[00:32:54] Damaged Parents: It does. It's so fascinating.
[00:32:56] Damaged Parents: Okay, I'm gonna hit stop now. . We love you guys. We love you listeners. We'll talk to you later. Bye.
Thank you for listening to this week's episode of Relatively Damaged by Damaged Parents. We've really enjoyed talking to Anna Stephanie, about the story of the two construction workers. We especially liked when she said "the best time to start something is today. And the next best time is tomorrow." To unite with other damaged people connect with us on instagram look for damaged parents We'll be here next week still relatively damaged see you then
