S2E5: Living with Autism Every Day
Jimmy Clare
Bio: Jimmy Clare is a motivational speaker, Autism Advocate, author, and founder of CrazyFitnessGuy.
Social media and contact information: https://www.crazyfitnessguy.com/
Podcast Transcript:
[00:00:00] Damaged Parents: Welcome to the Relatively Damaged Podcast by Damaged Parents where crazy autistic fit people come to learn. Maybe just, maybe we're all a little bit damaged. Someone once told me it's safe to assume 50% of the people I meet are struggling and feel wounded in some way. I would venture to say it's closer to 100%.
Every one of us is either currently struggling or has struggled with something that made us feel less than like we aren't good enough. We aren't capable. We are relatively damaged. And that's what we're here to talk about. In my ongoing investigation of the damaged self, I want to better understand how others view their own challenges.
Maybe it's not so much about the damage, maybe it's about our perception and how we deal with it. There is a deep commitment to becoming who we are meant to be. How do you do that? How do you find balance after a damaging experience? My hero is the damaged person. The one who faces seemingly insurmountable odds to come out on the other side, whole.
Those who stared directly into the face of adversity with unyielding persistence to discover their purpose. These are the people who inspire me to be more fully me. Not in spite of my trials, but because of them, let's hear from another hero.
Today's topic includes sensitive material, which may not be appropriate for children. This podcast is provided for informational purposes only and is not intended as advice. The opinions expressed here are strictly those of the person who gave them.
Today, we're going to talk with Jimmy Claire. He has many roles in his life, son podcast, host business person, motivational speaker, and more. We'll talk about how he's working to show the world he has capacity to do, and really making a difference, inspiring others as well. Let's talk
Welcome back to Relatively Damaged today. We have Jimmy Clare. He's the crazy fitness guy. He's also motivational speaker, autism advocate and author and founder of Crazy Fitness Guy. We're so glad you're here today.
[00:02:13] Jimmy Clare: Thanks for having me.
[00:02:14] Damaged Parents: Yeah. I love that. You're here being an autism advocate. What has been your biggest challenge when it comes to advocating for those, with that specific challenge?
[00:02:24] Jimmy Clare: I think my challenges is that since the spectrum is so broad, I try to come from perspective, but, my perspective might not be able to help everyone because I wanted to start different. Basically, if everyone was just the same, it would be really, really boring. And so I had to think my challenges is just that.
What works for me might not work for everyone else. And when I write on my website, I always tried to incorporate that into my blog posts to tell peoples what might work for me might not work for you. You just got to find out what works for you. It has taken me a lot of years to figure out what works for me and a lot of trial and error.
And I emphasized error.
[00:03:13] Damaged Parents: Okay. And what's the biggest error or what would you say has been your biggest error.
or biggest learning to get to this point then?
[00:03:22] Jimmy Clare: Ooh. That's , do you mean like the biggest error in my life, or do you want the biggest error of starting Crazy Fitness Guy? Because I can give you both, if you like.
[00:03:32] Damaged Parents: Sure. Well, let's just go down this road and we'll see where it leads us. You could do one or both, or,
you know, none at all.
[00:03:39] Jimmy Clare: I think the biggest error that I had to face, starting Crazy Fitness Guy was starting my business on WordPress. And I just want to clarify it for your listeners. I have no personal hate against WordPress. It is. I'm not a developer. And I've heard a lot of people use WordPress and I thought, oh, well, if everyone uses WordPress, then I should go use it too.
Yeah. I quickly learned that it was not right for me from day one because I was working 90 plus hours a week and my head was gonna explode. Not really, but I just, like I was getting really burnt out really, really quick, and I just couldn't take it anymore and then I switched over to Squarespace after, well, I think it was a year, almost a year was up.
I don't remember, but I just switched everything. And even though that everything came over to Squarespace broken, I didn't really care. Because I was like, am I going to keep half of these posts anyway, because they were just terribly written. and that wasn't like being very hard on myself. I mean, it's not even do me any favors in Google or any search traffic at all.
And so once you see the data that doesn't even show up in Google analytics and say, like this puzzledoesn't seem like it exist on my website. I was like, oh great. It's even Google can't even find it, throw it off. I don't even, I don't want it anymore.
[00:05:08] Damaged Parents: Right. So it sounds like when you chose WordPress, it was because you had heard a lot of people were using it. I mean, is there a way you could have known that it wasn't going to work for you prior to even choosing it?
[00:05:21] Jimmy Clare: Maybe I could have asked around, but I didn't. And I wasn't in any Facebook groups back then where I could ask around and I didn't know who to ask. And I would just going off of this by myself. I didn't have anyone really. I mean, like I have friends and family, but no one does this at all. And the people that I run into is like, yeah, I've heard WordPress is good too, is like, yeah, that's reassuring.
And I, again, I'm not saying I have any problem or beef with them. It just, didn't work for me. And I just couldn't take it.
[00:05:57] Damaged Parents: Yeah.
It, well, it sounds like too, that I love that. You're really reemphasizing. it's not about whether WordPress works or doesn't work for people. It's just not what worked for you.
[00:06:08] Jimmy Clare: Yeah.
[00:06:09] Damaged Parents: I love that you have that insight to say, you know what? It might work for someone else. And that's fantastic and great.
Just not for you.
[00:06:17] Jimmy Clare: Yeah, and I just didn't have the patience of troubleshooting everything because like sometimes when I went on WordPress on the backend of the website, I was like, okay, this plugins breaking this thing, and this thing is breaking nothing. And take that away. Then that's something else broke. And it was like, You can't possibly tell me that every website is like this,
everything would be broken.
[00:06:39] Damaged Parents: Yeah. So it sounds like just even in and of itself building the website was a tremendous struggle that brought on frustration, maybe some anger, like all of those feelings existed and you didn't stop. So how did you decide to keep going or what was your thought process during that time where it sounds like you were in the midst of, wanting , to, you know, scream.
[00:07:02] Jimmy Clare: Well, that's an understatement. what got me to keep going. I knew deep down inside either my brain or my heart somewhere that there's no way that every single website around the world is on WordPress. And as I is that just be physically impossible. Then every website builder out there would be out of business because there's no way there's every single website is built on WordPress and if that's the case.
And there's no reason why there should be another web builder out there. And I'm just telling myself that over and over again. When I was feeling very burnt out and I remember being burnt out, I was on the couch talking , on my phone with my mom. She was at the show. I was back in Pennsylvania.
And I was saying is, I don't know if I can do this anymore. And I was like, I like what I do, but I hate that. After like spending maybe pretty much all morning and pretty much all afternoon troubleshooting. I didn't even want to really want to write a blog post. I didn't even want to do anything on there and it's like, okay.
Now I've got everything working. I don't want to touch it.
It was like a display case with trophies and it's like, now I don't want to touch it.
[00:08:13] Damaged Parents: Right.
[00:08:14] Jimmy Clare: It was that delicate. Finally, then I started looking around and browsing and I was thinking, okay, what can I afford , at a price that is not gonna break my bank, but , it's not going to cause me to like, just give up and walk away.
And what I found out was that Squarespace is overall cheaper than WordPress. And how I get out was as hosting company is they state well, you're good on this plan for X amount of page views a month. And it's like you're going to charge me for page views, come from my website and it's like yup.
And then when you hit this many page views, you have to upgrade. And I was like, that doesn't sound like it's fair at all. And one thing I like about Squarespace is that they ran a super bowl ad. I forgot how many years ago. I think it was like , I think May, 2017, 2018 ish. Not 2019 ish. But, I remember that they were showing a commercial and they said over 1 million people went to their website after seeing that commercial and.
Their servers and their websites stayed up. They didn't even go down as I, now that's impressive. As I give a million people went to your website all at once. Wow.
[00:09:31] Damaged Parents: Yeah.
[00:09:31] Jimmy Clare: And so that amazed me and I'm not saying like, okay, they have never, ever gone down. Like my site has gone down a few times, but it was back up in like a minute less than a minute.
So yeah. Well, you know, I need a host that can, gave me the support and handles all the technical difficulties while I'm creating the content and promoting the content, because I'd rather do that. I like that part better than, uh, let's troubleshoot this. Let's troubleshoot that the only thing I had to troubleshoot now is just finding broken links on my website or if something's not compatible with Squarespace, I have to remove a piece of code and then we add it later.
But it's like if that's the only thing I have to do, besides the troubleshooting where I on WordPress, sign me up.
[00:10:19] Damaged Parents: Right. Right. So when you called your mom, when you were frustrated about thinking of what words did she give you? Words of encouragement or what did she tell you?
[00:10:29] Jimmy Clare: I remember. She would telling me, when he goes to the new platform, well, the first question was, can you afford it? And I was like, yeah, I think I can afford it. And that was at the time when before my summer job and everything, I was like, yeah, I think I can afford it.
I do have to pay a pretty penny, but it's because they handle all the technical difficulties I was like yeah. You know, uh WordPress desks that are cheaper, but in the long run, this is more cheaper than, as I'll give you a ball park figure was spending on WordPress. I was spending like, $800 in total a year.
And I mean that wasn't just hosting in a domain name. I had some plugins and whatnot, and I guess it all adds up.
[00:11:14] Damaged Parents: Yeah.
[00:11:15] Jimmy Clare: I went, but with Squarespace my hosting costs $216 for a year, but then but what's really nice. They'd handle the technical difficulty is, and of course I pay for some other extra tools like I have An automated social media tool to help me promote my stuff right off the bat where I don't have to go one by one by one, because that's just be a waste of time.
And I pay for another social media marketing tool, just so I can tweet on the go because. The other one didn't have a mobile app. And it was like, if you don't have a mobile app, well, it's going to be hard for me. And So without counting all the other tools I was spending I would say around
$240 I a year for hosting and, the domain name by year. So I was like, yeah, it sounds like a very expensive, but they don't have any page view limits, like WordPress does where other hosting companies like, yeah, you're good up until like 50,000 Patriots a month.
And I was like, And then what happens? I had to upgraded and it's like, get the upgrade. I was like, wait, I'm already paying 200 plus, something already. And he's like, no, you have to upgrade.
[00:12:22] Damaged Parents: Yeah.
[00:12:22] Jimmy Clare: That's ridiculous
[00:12:24] Damaged Parents: it's tough. it can be tough running a business and having a website and marketing. And so it sounds like you do all of that on your own.
[00:12:31] Jimmy Clare: You have no idea. I, have so many different platforms for myself and Crazy Fitness Guy. And I can tell you the reason why is because when I was just trying to keep it, just Crazy Fitness Guy and leave myself out of it. And I was promoting like, oh, you're in crazy fitness guy. Just turn this.
let's say one years old when I was one years old uh, years ago. No one really interacted with the post. Never really give a crap and whatnot. But then when I started to advertise crazy fitness guy, myself and showcase the real me behind the crazy fitness guy, people's like, oh, congratulations.
It's like, Oh, now, you give a crap. Thank you. That you didn't give a crap from a book And what I learned in marketing. And I, took a marketing course in my college for my major and whatnot. And I took marketing on HubSpot and what I've learned is that people want to connect with the real people behind the brand.
They don't want to connect with another brand. The brands out there are already established as like, they're going to like your brand. They may or may not like your brand, but they want to know who is behind that brand. And they want to follow that person.
[00:13:42] Damaged Parents: Yeah. Like who are you?
[00:13:44] Jimmy Clare: And it's like if they like you they're going to like your brand, but if they don't like it, they probably won't like your brand.
[00:13:50] Damaged Parents: Right. I mean, then they aren't our people, right?
[00:13:53] Jimmy Clare: Yeah. Well, look how that's working out for Mark Zuckerberg.
[00:13:55] Damaged Parents: Yeah. True.
[00:13:57] Jimmy Clare: No one likes him and no one likes Facebook. So.
[00:14:00] Damaged Parents: I love your perspective. Okay. What was the other struggle? Cause you said you had two, two struggles. You could talk about.
[00:14:07] Jimmy Clare: Yeah, my other struggle was, one of the other struggle that I've ever faced was just let's just say I made some uh, really bad mistakes with some teachers and Some of these teachers pushed me past my limit on my 12th grade teacher, who I absolutely think she was like the worst person on planet earth because She basically called me lazy, even though I was getting straight A's in all my classes.
And I got excused from all the finals because the end of this school year before graduation and she's like, I can't believe you're getting a excuse and so I'm just gonna make you take it. , and what would that prove? I would have to literally fail the final and they're going to fail my whole class as I that's just a waste of time and stupid.
[00:14:56] Damaged Parents: Unless, I mean, what if she was coming from the perspective of, I think he's capable.
[00:15:00] Jimmy Clare: no, she was a really hard teacher with a very strict personality.
[00:15:07] Damaged Parents: that's hard
[00:15:08] Jimmy Clare: And like, I remember , she fought me on every single thing. Like, for a lot of my electives back in high school. I didn't like to bring homework home because I might need extra help with homework and my mom helped me with homework a lot too, but there were so many nights, like I came home crying a lot from being bullied and, just go all the way up to high school.
And I stopped the bullying before. 12th grade, but the problem was is that the homework always built up. And when I got to it, it was just like, can we just be done with this crap? I don't want to do it. Uh, And I hate the school back then, and I'm not like that now anymore, but, I like my college.
For most of my electives, at least, like I had two study halls per day, so I got to do homework while I was in school. And my guidance counselors is like, as like, you really should be doing homework at home. And it's like, well, if I get to pick my up my electives, I'm going to pick study hall.
[00:16:07] Damaged Parents: It sounds like a really smart thing to do. you have challenges with learning and then you could sit in an environment where you would have a teacher , what would be wrong? That doesn't make sense to be that that could be problematic. It makes sense to me, I think of self care and self-advocacy like, those are great things.
[00:16:27] Jimmy Clare: Well, apparently I think that was frowned upon in my high school. It was like you're advocating against the homework. And I was like, I'm not advocating against homework. I'm advocating. to actually better myself? I used to have a one-on-one helper in a high school. And she followed me around to my classes to help me take notes because, my fine motor skills for handwriting was not very strong. It tired easily.
So it started getting like very lazy and whatnot. And then, so I can't even read my own writing. And so having those study halls, I got to work with my one-on-one helper, but I remember my English teacher, she even interrupted run my study halls because
we were reading this book and we had to answer this specific question. And I remember, and I read the book, like from start to finish and she said to me and it's like Jamie, did you do your work already? And I was like, yeah, I did my work. And I just read my book and high school just for fun.
And it was a different book that checked out from the library there. And she. I sure did you deal with your work? And I was like, yeah, I did all my work and I was like, well, you should be preparing for the test. It's like, I'm already prepared and she was like, oh, really? Let me go
quiz you so she just dropped what she was doing. She came into the room And she's like, well, you're still missing this answer to this question and it's like say, yeah, well, I was going to bring up to you in English class, which was like two periods from, my study hall. And she's like, oh, well, I can answer right now for you.
I was like, ugh here, I was like, thanks, Mrs. Wonderful.
[00:18:02] Damaged Parents: So just So I have an understanding, you're in the midst of reading something else you feel like, and you've already kind of planned to address it later. And she comes in and says, oh, I can answer it now. But in your mind you were thinking I can do this later. So was it really hard to shift then in that moment to go, oh, okay. Well, I guess we'll do it now.
[00:18:25] Jimmy Clare: well, maybe for the people who will be listened to this episode might say well she might seem very helpful. You may think that. However, when she sat down, she went to the whole entire book page by page, by page, and guess what? She made a mistake. And uh, that question was even in the book.
And so she wasted my whole entire study hall. And that's why I don't like her and that's one of my, maybe I shouldn't have I said some stuff that I'm was not very fond of but my parents didn't fault me for what I said to her now. I didn't like I never cursed at her, but when I showed up to her door, I always liked this saying from the Two and a Half Men, I used to watch with Charlie Sheen in it every time when he goes up to their mother's houses like welcome to the gates of hell.
na-na-na, and so every time I went to her classroom I was like, yeah, welcome to the gates of hell. And it's like, you might as well have a welcome matt that says that too. And I think she took it as a joke many of times, but she just loved to make my life miserable.
and maybe people who listen to those might say, well, maybe. I egged her on and everything and got her on her bedside. And it's like, I was very pleasant before when I first met her, but she was such a busy heart ass the first day I met her. So it just got worse from there.
And so I was just defending myself and, I don't think she has ever reported me to any of the principals because she knew I could come back. like, well, she's been calling me lazy. She's been interrupting my uh, study hall periods. You didn't think that my study hall periods were necessary and whatnot.
So I was like, so if I told that she probably been big, huge trouble. So, I was like, Yeah, you don't want to screw with me.
[00:20:17] Damaged Parents: Right. And just so I can have better understanding. Because my understanding is like, well, at least for me.
and , I don't believe I'm on the spectrum, but even if I'm decided what my process is, and then I kind of get into something and somebody comes and they're like, oh no, we're going to do this
now. I really have to shift into that moment. And I have a nephew who has Asperger's or he's on the spectrum because I think it's all considered autistic spectrum disorder now. Right? Like, so for him it might be a lot harder to shift and he might get frustrated or upset.
sometimes.
[00:20:53] Jimmy Clare: Trust me on that. one I still have problems with shifting gears towards stuff. But now I have a, like now when it's time for me to do homework I have like a 30 minute transition period. So I was like, okay, I got 30 minutes to do whatever I want to do. It could be my website stuff, my business stuff, or it could be marketing stuff or it could just be.
I'm just going to chill. I made a book for 30 minutes and then I'm gonna get my homework because I just like, I can't go from one thing to nothing. Now, if it's like for smaller things, then I can go back to back. But it was like a big thing. Small, small, small, like, no, no, no, no, no, no.
This is too much.
[00:21:32] Damaged Parents: So you had to figure out what works for you so that you could be successful. And that sounds like that probably took some time to even get used to that. Am I thinking along the right track there?
[00:21:45] Jimmy Clare: Yeah. Like I even set up my whole to do list app on my computers where I have like maybe two big things and a lot of smaller tasks where it might take me five minutes instead of the hour or two something else might tape me. And so I was like, this is the smartest thing I've ever done.
[00:22:04] Damaged Parents: So you figured out to do that on your own. Somebody didn't , teach you that or show you that you had, you found it on research or how did you figure that out?
[00:22:13] Jimmy Clare: I just figured out by trial and error and I, man, I think there's a lot of trial and error these days. so I basically like, okay, well let's take instance writing a blog post. I started on Monday's well as I okay. Let's say I spent two hours on it or let's say an hour , and then I was like, okay, well, what other big task on you do?
And then I have all these marketing tasks and it's like, okay. You know what Marketing takes me like I am in all these Facebook groups that have different threads and whatnot. Just to pretty much your latest blog posts or Podcast and so I market in my group, as well as I get traffic from Facebook and all the social media networks and Google and every search engine out there.
And so as I thought, I was like, okay, so how can I structure my day And it's like, well, all the Facebook group marketing, some other marketing stuff and I was like well what takes the longest. So I was like, okay, let's do a blog post early in the morning because I know I'm more productive early in the morning. And then I was like, okay.
Facebook, I sometimes, start coming on other people's stuff when I see or interact with my friends and family members on Facebook. So I was like, okay, let's put that in the either early afternoon or lunchtime afternoon or late morning. So if I do get offhand for my schedule. It's not going to eat into anything else as important.
And then I structure my homework. I was like, okay, I do my homework either late morning or very early afternoon. So when I needed my mom's help she's available to help me and not as approaching hey mom, by the way, after dinner, can you help me with my homework?
And she's like, you waited for something you needed to tell me now.
[00:24:06] Damaged Parents: Okay. And she might not be able to do it in that moment if you plan it that way. So it sounds like there's communication that really has to happen with the people in your life that you do life with really.
[00:24:16] Jimmy Clare: Yeah. That's for sure. Uh, Even though sometimes , I might not communicate it very well to my mom, but then sometimes it works out, better than others. I just learned over the years that okay, if I need someone help, I need to do it early in their day. So it was like, okay.
So if I need help with a certain project. Whether it's in my house or something or homework or whatnot is like, okay, let's ask at breakfast time. before I work out in the morning and then do the blog post. Then maybe see if they can help me around that time. And then if they can, then we do early afternoonish.
So then I can say, get my other stuff done. So it's kinda compromise, going
[00:24:57] Damaged Parents: yeah.
And it sounds like it gives everyone a chance to prepare, not just you, but the people around you too, to be like okay, at this time, I'm going to focus on this with Jimmy
that seems helpful to me, actually. I can't tell you how many times my kids come to me and then just expect right in that moment, I've got like 10 things going on and it's like, wait, hold on.
And then they get mad.
[00:25:19] Jimmy Clare: And like another thing that helps me is the idea. I have a, block scheduling app that I use that syncs, along with my Google calendar. It just a one way sync up because you don't want your calendar to mess up with so many tasks on it, because I tried doing my Google calendar as a block scheduling, but basically it became like a rainbow full Skittles for me.
Because of all the color coding is I, all I can see is a lot of tasks and it's hurting my eyes and my tutor, who used to tutor me, she taught me about block scheduling and I was like, okay, you know, I'm going to have to try this. And when I found this app I thought the app was really cool because I have such busy days with my business and homework and schoolwork and going to class and whatnot.
I was like, Where do I have time to read? Because I like reading and whatnot and I actually need to make time for reading. And so I put in my block scheduling app too. schedule time for reading. And when the cool part is, it tells you how many, minutes or hours you have between each task as like, Hey, I found two extra hours and I was like, this thing is magic.
[00:26:30] Damaged Parents: Like, yes, I have more time than I realized
[00:26:32] Jimmy Clare: yeah. I was like, man, this is going to take me all day and was like, wait, I have two hours to read. Holy crap. I was like, thank you. I was like, I think this tool should market itself. It's like, we're magic.
[00:26:42] Damaged Parents: Yeah. He was like, it's magic. I love it. I love it when things are magical. We are almost at the end of our recording time and I did not prepare you for this. So we'll see what the universe brings us today. What are three tips or tools that you would give other people or
even support people who work around people who struggle , with autism, or maybe they want to be a motivational speaker, or maybe they want to be into fitness. Like any of those topics, or you can do three in each of them. And , what are three tips or tools you would give the audience today?
[00:27:16] Jimmy Clare: I think for, the autism one, I would say, find something that works for you. I was suggest like if you're into block scheduling, if you're not a fan of technology, Okay. Writing a paper calendar. That's fine. That also works too. my handwriting is not very strong. I'm not a person who wants to write on that calendar and to do this every single day, I'd rather just have a, to do list that resets every single day and do the tasks that are on that
to do list. And as I have stuff that goes off monthly, a yearly, weekly every other week daily and whatnot, And so I'd rather have , a schedule that just goes resets automatically because I can't do it every single day. Just seeing my mom right out of her to do list calendar every single time is like, how do you do it as I would go fricking insane.
She was like, but it's relaxing for me. And it's like, I was relaxing for you. Well, it's daunting to me.
[00:28:21] Damaged Parents: Right.
[00:28:22] Jimmy Clare: I was like, I have three pieces of technology in my room, two computers, one side-by-side at the moment. But they all have my calendars and to do lists and my phone and., if somebody got my computers, they can literally stalk for what I do every single day.
I was like, this guy is nuts. And I was like, why do you think I call myself the crazy fitness guy?
[00:28:42] Damaged Parents: There you go. There you go.
[00:28:43] Jimmy Clare: So that's, tip number one, tip number two, I would say, keep a journal of what may or may not work for you. I learned that through the years. The hard way, many times when I come to my mom or my dad late, they, I didn't say they were mad, but they weren't very happy. And it was like, no, we're doing this tomorrow. , and at first I didn't understand why, but then I was like, No. I understand why it's like, they want their time to, it's not just me, me, me and me now my head is it's me, me, me and me.
[00:29:18] Damaged Parents: I love that you point that out. I think in everyone's head, regardless of having autism or not it's always me, me, me, like what do I need to do? It's not usually thinking about other people. So I love that you point that out.
[00:29:31] Jimmy Clare: And the third tip I would say have patience learn how to communicate with one another out there. If the person. , who has extra challenges can't talk. Maybe they can type it out or write it out, of what they need or maybe pointed out what they need, whatever that is. You just gotta be open to what that person's schedule is and what .
Their schedule is, and the other person's schedule is.
[00:29:58] Damaged Parents: Right. Or even, I think what I hear you saying is.
how that person might communicate. So trying to remember that even though in our heads, it might be about what we need to accomplish that at the end of the day. It's really important to try and come from another perspective and to think that someone else might have something different in mind.
[00:30:19] Jimmy Clare: Yeah. , it's funny my uh, dad before he left the shore house today to go back up to Pennsylvania as I forgot why he was gone back up there, but he said to me he's like, Jimmy think about when you wanna go golfing and and go fishing with me , or do you just want to work all summer long?
And I was like, okay, that's a low blow out there.
And he's like, uh, you do realize I run my whole business, myself, I don't have 6 million people working for me. I think that'd be nice, but I think those people that had to be clones of me because of how my brain is wired. And , I think a lot of people would say it's like, you're control freak and it's like I know I am a control freak.
I am totally admit that. but when he said that, I was like Okay. If it was my vacation week, I would golf and fish with you every single freaking day if you want. and it's like, I have karate at three different times. weird different times. Like I kid you not, I have a
12 noon karate on Monday. I have 8:00 karate on Wednesday night and 7:15 karate on Friday night and so I can't just be out on the boat on Wednesday and Monday and Friday, because I'm going to rock back and forth. in karate it's like, is it just me or is everyone feeling a little bit uh,
[00:31:29] Damaged Parents: Seasick.
[00:31:30] Jimmy Clare: off balance because like when you get off a boat and I was like, I've never been seasick once on a boat but one of the things.
your feet feel wobbly. Like you feel like you're still on the ocean. And so I was like, oh, this is going to be fun karate class. But it would be really interesting to do that in person, because then it'd be like, hey, that'd be a really good blocking technique it's like would you stand still? So I can
[00:31:52] Damaged Parents: Fantastic.
Yeah, you can have some fun with that. You can do an experiment.
[00:31:56] Jimmy Clare: I'm not try that anytime soon.
[00:31:58] Damaged Parents: I've love it. I love it.
[00:32:00] Jimmy Clare: And if people want to get into fitness, I would say if you're looking for I would say maybe try Beach Body on demand because they have all the nutrition, and trainers and what not. And it's only a hundred dollars a year. I'm not saying I made them money. I'm definitely not my parents are helping me pay for that, but okay.
Compare that to all the gems in the world. it's not that much money. Like, for instance, the gym down here at the shore, it's $150 just for three months.
[00:32:32] Damaged Parents: Yeah.
[00:32:33] Jimmy Clare: So think about it's like, and you have to pay every time you go there and it's up to $150 dollars. And so the membership is $150, but it's I think it's like, I think it's a dollar a day yea or something.
I'm not good with math. claimed to be,
[00:32:50] Damaged Parents: that's a little over. If it's 150, then it's a little over a dollar a day. If you've got assuming 90 days, it might be like closer to a dollar and a half a day.
[00:32:59] Jimmy Clare: Yeah. and my second tip for that would be if you're on social media, I would follow a lot of the celebrity Beach Body demand trainers, because They give a lot of amazing tips and tricks. Like, there's a lot of different recipes and it's not like, okay, you have to be on a diet and you can't just, uh, have a cheat meal here and there.
I have a cheat meal here and there, but I only do it once a week or once in a month. Depending on if I really need something and my third tip would be, know that your work out doesn't have to be boring. There's so many different fun workouts to do. You can walk your dog. You can go for a bike ride.
There's plenty of, workouts on Beach Body on demand. There's dancing. There's boxing. There's a lot of weightlifting body weight exercises. Yoga you name it they have it. I don't think they have a cycling one yet, but who knows what they're going to come up with, but yeah, it's like work on it.
Doesn't have to be boring. I feel sorry for those people who say like I have to be a gym rat for a whole hour, you know, my, it used to be a whole hour. Now they put up 45 minutes because , that's the new trending time is 30 to 45 minutes each day. Now sometimes I only get 25 minutes in, because of my busy schedule or I started a little too late, but 25 minutes is better than no minutes at all.
And the intensity of the workout. It still kicks my butt. I'm drenched in sweat when I'm done. I mean, I'm not sweating now, but if I was holy moly, there's a problem there it's either with me or the air conditioning.
[00:34:37] Damaged Parents: Right.
[00:34:38] Jimmy Clare: Yeah.
[00:34:39] Damaged Parents: well, awesome. I'm so glad I got to have you on the show today, Jimmy. Thank you so much. And remember, go to CrazyFitnessGuy.com to check him out. He's also on Facebook gosh you're everywhere. Instagram, I think.
[00:34:52] Jimmy Clare: Yeah.
just Google Jimmy Clare. I show up on the first page of, from my own name and or Google Crazy Fitness Guy.
[00:34:58] Damaged Parents: Thank you. again for coming on the show. Glad to have you here.
[00:35:01] Damaged Parents: Thank you for listening to this week's episode of Relatively Damaged by Damaged Parents. We've really enjoyed talking to Jimmy about how he advocates for those with autism. We especially liked when he walked us through how he solved his website challenges. To unite with other damaged people connect with us on Instagram look for Damaged Parents will be here next week still Relatively Damaged See you then.
